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Submitted by steppingsideways on Sun, 04/29/2012 - 7:13pm

DH has two children, SS 7 and SD 5. I have two children DS 8 and DS 5. DH has always struggled with favoritism with his son. It's evident to many members of our family. It's also very evident that he doesn't feel a natural inclination towards my children. I feel that he sometimes nit picks at my children and is very critical of their behavior. The Skids can act the same way and his reaction to them (mainly SS 7) is completely different. SS7 can do no wrong. We have had the 'come to Jesus' discussion a MILLION times. I simply will NOT stand for unequal treatment in our household.

MIL's relationship with BM

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Submitted by steppingsideways on Thu, 03/29/2012 - 6:30pm

My MIL lives within walking distance from BM. MIL frequently communicates with BM to arrange time to spend with the Skids. Over the last several month's BM has been SOOO horrible to DH and I. DH asked MIL to cease correspondence with BM as we could really use MIL's support right now. DH made it clear to MIL that she could see the skids when they are with us. MIL recently returned to town (in-laws spend the winter out of state) and low and behold, she's arranging time with the skids on BM's parenting time.

Can't get over it

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Submitted by steppingsideways on Sun, 01/15/2012 - 3:50pm

This is the first time I've posted here, but I've been reading the board for a while. I've been with FDH for a little over two years. In that time he has made enourmous progress with establishing boundaries with BM however I can't seem to let go of all of the things that have occured in the past. I can't help to think that if I hadn't been in the picture he would still be catering to her every beckon call. I feel like the only reason he stands up to her is to avoid conflict with me. FDH gave BM everything she wanted in the divorce, including their home which was completely paid off.