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I Have the EOW Drama Blues

StepDeux's picture

For anyone who has been following my story, there is a CO in place and BM is not following. She has a contempt trial set for the end of the summer and SO hasn't seen SD since the beginning of January and could potentially not see her until after the summer because of the crappy court system.

BM has stopped taking SD to school on the days when it's SO's weekend, so that he can't get her (and probably partially because she's a lazy good for nothing piece of crap). We do not live in the same city as the school and it's an hour + drive there, so SO has been calling on his weekends to see whether or not SD is there. And she hasn't been... until today. Sad

This means that now we all have to rush so SO can try to get there early with CO BEFORE BM shows up, so that she basically has to abide by the order. I doubt BM will act nutty at the school, but she might. I am just so tired of this!

SO wants me and my DD to ride along, but I don't feel like it. The thought of all of this and EOW being like this for perputity makes me literally tear up. It's exhausting how much we're all displaced because he had sex ONCE with a raging lunatic. Sad

I have NO drama with my XH. He's totally Disney dad and sometimey, but I still have NO problems with him. He is who he is and that's it. I just can't understand someone being so contentious and so full of drama. How does it benefit anyone and, obviously, SO isn't just going to give up.

The worst part is that he could end up getting SD for the weekend, which will ruin it for everyone since she hasn't been over in a couple of months and hasn't even talked to SO in months because she "refuses" to talk to him, according to BM. That means that she is going to be crying/whining/asking about BM or asking if SO is trying to put BM in jail or take her from BM, which I'm sure BM is telling her.

It's so very, very ugly. And even though I feel for SO and I feel for SD tremendously to be in this situation, at the same time it's not my freaking problem and I'm tired of this bullshit, for lack of a better word, invading my life on a regular basis.

It feels like it's never going to end.... so the contempt for the one trial is just for the old order, so there is going to have to be another contempt for everything for the current order, which means serving BM, and the whole song and dance at the court that won't do anything, but make BM feel like she's winning something.

And, in the meantime, it's killing our realtionship. It's Friday and I have so many good things going on in my life. I shouldn't feel so blue and suddenly, I do.

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Ex4life's picture

Stay strong StepDuex. Count down the days. I'm betting if he brings her home this weekend, she will start missing on his weekends again so it'll be awhile before you have to deal with her again. I hope you are documenting all the missed visits so you can nail her to the wall. Have SO get a sheet from the school showing the days she misses. It should help show the pattern.