We figured his out a few weeks ago when he frantically knocked on our door stating he HAD to call BM

We briefly explained that it was not HIS responsibility. BM was permitted one call during a specific window of time. It's nice that he thinks of his mom, but he needs to focus on his homework and if/when bm calls during her designated time, we will let him know.

Now that the "fight" is over and bm has settled in to her EOWe visits and her usual way of blowing SS off, she no longer calls at 7 pm on the dot. Not does she even text with her "it's 7. Where's SS?"- three times between 7 and 7:02.

There is nothing for her to gain ( in her mind) by continuing the regular phone calls since there is no longer a fight with DH.

It's Nearly 7:40. Ss13 asked I he should call his mom. I told him I'll let him know if she calls but he should just focus on his homework. He is permitted to call her anytime he wants as long as he has homework completed. He looks forward to these calls,, even I they only last for 4 minutes most of the time.

I feel bad for him, especially when he sees the easy relationship I have with my bios' dad and how we'll chat aNd let the kids talk. Dh has an RO against bm so their relationship is quite the opposite. I'm glad SS gets to see something more cordial modeled for him but still feel bad that the kids mom can't even keep up with a scheduled call. ( dh always said she'd lose steam as this has been her pattern. She can't compete, doesn't really care, and has an extensive history of this, abandoning her child for 7 years).

That is all.