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"It's the most wonderful time of the year..."

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Submitted by SteelRose on Tue, 09/03/2013 - 11:18am

I have a friend who raised a disabled son like I raised a disabled daughter and this was "our song" each September! Now I still sing it when I know it's another school year of ss16 going off to school 5 days a week! Back when I first met dh and ss, dh would give ss a day at home if he got good grades or did well in school for the month, the first school day of the month. I remember being so angry one day back then b/c it was so important for me to have that day without ss and I was working night shifts and had to sleep.

Yesterday pulled off without a hitch!

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Submitted by SteelRose on Mon, 09/02/2013 - 10:14am

So yesterday was the sunday I was wondering how it'd all work out. Remember my niece in law was having a birthday party and DH, ss16, bs15 and I were going to go originally, then ss19 wanted to go and then to top it off bs18 was coming over from college for the weekend? I was feeling so much pressure to go with dh and it was mostly internal pressure. Well what finally happened was I spent the day here at home with my two bs and dh took ss16. It turned out ss19 was too sick to go so it was nice for dh and ss16 to have a day with their side of the family. They had lots of fun and sun.

The Dawning

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Submitted by SteelRose on Wed, 08/28/2013 - 9:00am

Last evening I had this big revelation hit me, and wrote it on here but it seems to have gone into outer space somewhere. It suddenly hit me yesterday how everything that makes the skids dislike (hate) me is directly linked to DH. Either he does not discipline his kids and so I talk to him and then he talks to them and they KNOW I talked to him about something I want them to do or not to do or change or clean up or whatever, and they hate me for it.

to go or not to go - update

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Submitted by SteelRose on Tue, 08/27/2013 - 4:37pm

So now it's not just dh, me, ss16 and potentially bs15 going to the birthday party, now ss19 wants to go too. He is leaving for jobcorps and this might be the last family function he gets to be at for a year or so. I am not against him going but now with him in the car there is no room for bs15 and also now as of this morning bs18 is coming home for the weekend as well b/c grandma bought him a bus ticket home for labor day functions for Monday, so now I want to spend Sunday with both my bsons and just let DH and ssons go to the b'day party, BUUT DH wants me to come with him and ssons.

Finally the mammoth is gone but sadly not before damage was done - OT

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Submitted by SteelRose on Mon, 08/26/2013 - 3:15pm

So as all of you may remember about 2 months ago DH came home without my permission with a big Bull Mastiff dog that he adopted from a friend who has gone off to another state to college. Well many posts later I can finally say the dog is gone. DH took him to the Humane Society this morning. We ran ads and tried for a month to sell the dog to a family who has no cats, but since the dog was not fixed and not up to date on shots no one wanted him. Also being so big once anyone saw him they just said they did not have the means to not only feed him but house him.

I get the house to myself today

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Submitted by SteelRose on Sun, 08/25/2013 - 11:13am

Dh is going to pick up ss16 from church at noon after he also spent the night at a friends having a big last of summer party. Bs15 went to his dad's and dh and I had a rare night alone last night. So now DH is off to pick up ss and then go over to ss19's apartment to empty it out and move his junk into BM's storage, they'll be gone most of the day. I am looking forward to time ALONE. Then realized it has been months, no years, since I have had the house to myself on a regular basis.

to go or not to go?

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Submitted by SteelRose on Sat, 08/24/2013 - 11:03am

So this coming weekend DH's niece has a birthday party we are invited to. It's only a couple hours away and I have never been to their place in the 4.5 years I have been with dh. They are in big money and live in the "hamptons", we live in a modular home on an acre in the country and have mostly all second hand stuff, with dogs and boys and nothings nice and lovely in my home. Anyhow, so here is what I'm writing for, bs15 is not with his dad next weekend so he's invited to go along but he does not want to go.

shit hit the fan

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Submitted by SteelRose on Thu, 08/22/2013 - 1:06pm

This morning while ss16 and dh were out in the livingroom talking I went out there and said that since we're all here together can we please discuss ss going to the old school and the costs involved. DH said there is nothing to discuss b/c it's been decided and he promised ss could finish high school there and that he would work out how to make sure gas is in the car for ss, etc. I said how the heck can we keep gas in the car for ss when in fact we can't even pay our bills, etc.

Ss's body clock is really wacked

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Submitted by SteelRose on Tue, 08/20/2013 - 9:10am

One morning it's 5am that ss16 gets up, next it's 11 am. He just cannot get his body clock under control. DH lets ss sleep from 4-8pm b/c he mowed the lawn or went on a run and then as soon as we go to bed he's up for hours on the xbox. DH tells him to get to bed on time and get up at a regular time but ss just does whatever the heck he wants. For the last 3 evenings he has slept through supper, and then eats snacks for half the night. It frustrates me only, really I could care less. BS15 is regularly getting up at 7am this week and next week he'll get up at 6:30.

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