Your thoughts on 16 year old girlfriend sleepover please

SS16 was due for his first boxing match yesterday, not pro just an event. He started telling me Friday evening that he really wanted his gf to go but because of the expected snow she would probably not make it. I knew where he was going with it, so I changed the subject.
So he asks SO to speak to him, and at that point asks him if gf could sleep over Friday night. SO very very stupidly (in my opinion), and without consulting with me said yes.

I told SO he should have discussed it with me first. He was agreeable to it but of course it's too late. I told him they were most likely going to cancel his boxing match due to the snow. Also, the snow was forecasted to stop at 1am Sunday, so that meant she would most likely be staying until Sunday. I told SO all of this, but still he allowed the situation, with the exception that SSs stay in the living room and gf sleep in the room.

It's 3:47 am. SS16 is in the room with the girl, while SS10 sleeps in the living room. SO is snoring.

And I can't sleep because I don't believe in any of this. I do not endorse any of this. On a side note, the girls mom has allowed this before and asked that they sleep in different beds (Halloween, it was too late for her to take train home).

This girl could end up pregnant. Why doesn't SO understand that? What is so difficult about saying "SS, your gf is allowed to come over, plus you get to go visit her almost every weekend. I understand that you want her at your first boxing event, but it's not appropriate for anyone; not for you, who is still only 16, or your gf, or SS10 who struggles with authority, or DD1."

And who knows what time gf will be expecting to leave but she needs to go home! We have a 2 bedroom, this is all kinds of wrong.

Am I being old school, unrealistic? What would you guys suggest moving forward?

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I don't think it is about

I don't think it is about being old fashioned. The he fact is that at 16 you are hormonal and horny, not exactly capable of making the best decisions in life.

Your dh could quite possibly the be an enabler in making his own sons life harder if the girlfriend gets pregnant. That is just plain irresponsible.

You're not being old school.

You're not being old school. I think it is reckless to have opposite sex sleepovers. I'd start calling DH "gramps" and asking him how he is going to feel being a grandparent before his son is even an adult.

Congratulations. I guess SO

Congratulations. I guess SO wants to raise another baby.

Heard that almost 10% of babies, children and teens are being raised by grandparents here in the US. Sorry to think that your SO's laziness: not asking/speaking to you first, not enforcing the limp rules he did set up, going to sleep w/o any follow-up. Parenting like this goes beyond laziness. Just think. In a year, you will have SS17 AND SGF17 AND the newborn SGD/SGS living with you.

Just ask UnfreakinReal or any of the other posters coping with teen pregnancies. You might want to take a heads up read on all the "failure to launch" posts of semi-adult kids.

Thanks ladies. I needed to

Thanks ladies. I needed to post this because I asked SO if any of the families in the wealthy building he works in allow this and he said they do! It really goes against my core. I feel like he is enabling his son and I too see a future where gf gets pregnant and tries to have us help her. SO thinks I exaggerate, and this is not that serious.