Oh, so quiet... SD12 went to spend the summer with her BM. It has been a week already, but I dont miss her at all. None if the tension that was here for months at a time. Enjoying the time with my DH, trying not to let petty things ruin the binding time. Agreed to allow my ex to have my BS5, one more night during the week over the summer, we live in the same town, hoping that will give us more time. BS5, sees his BD on weekends, so he will be gone friday, sat and Sunday nights, maybe.
I feel bad for not missing SD, but not really. We all neef a.break from our kids but the frustration that has built up in the house due to the SD is terrible.
Ive talked to other parents and people I trust, they say its all the changing hormones, she wants time with her dad, she will come around, she wants time with you..I say BS, she just needs to get her head out of her a#$ and realize she needs to follow the rules like everyone else, figure out something to do, stop the bs lieing, manipulating, feeling sorry for herself and take the position that she is a child in the house, she doesn't pay bills, she doesn't contribute so she needs to be thankful for what she has got. Food, shelter, someone who watches out for het etc.
She has already been warned, comes back after summer break and it starts again, im done talking.. Her bd, my dh, thinks that a warmed ass will be the answer. So, thats bd choice.
Seriously though, how do I detach and relax, cause I don't want my dh to keep taking the side of, your to controlling let her do what she wants, when she falls on her ass she will learn she needed to listen to you. B...$#!!, she is not teaching my son (5) things just because she has no boundaries. Any way, suggestions please