Happy days
There aren't many of those happy days on here, so I wanted to share mine.
Friday we got the call that a judge actually agreed to sign the order that allowed SD16 to live with BM. I am guessing she didn't read SD's history or BM's for that matter, otherwise she wouldn't have signed them. BUT she did. So, today DH allowed SD to come retrieve all her belongings. She did. She is gone.
Forever I hope. I am happy because since she has been gone, my boys have become happy again, I can see it in their faces. My LUPUS actually doesn't bother me as much as normal and I know it is about the stress being gone. I actually feel better and look forward to my days.
DH says he will miss her, I'm sure he will, he is her father. I think it will be a VERY long time before I ever feel that, if ever.
I am sure I will be posting here again as they never REALLY go away, do they? But for now I am happy she is officially gone. We have turned her room into a game room, the boys love it! Ya know, the animals actually seem happier, silly but true! 
I do wish all of you could be rid of your problem causing skids and their BM's, and know the peace I am having, I will say a prayer for all of you! I never thought my nightmare would end and maybe it won't, but for now it has. So, I will live in the now! ~hugs~
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I'm happy you're all happier
I do think it would be more peaceful without SD here, but I also feel like we're her only hope for a normal or near normal adulthood. So for now we'll keep trying. But if she's pulling worse things at 16, or attempts to sabatoge us or our happiness more, then she can go live with BM.
Incidentally BM told her recently that she's moving to Las Vegas when SD is 18. YAY! DH asked SD, "Why is she waiting til then?"
When he shared this with me later I said, "What happens in Vegas stays right?" He said, "Yes...but if you stay in Vegas then whatever you did stays WITH you!"
Ha ha. Ironically, BM was supposed to go to Vegas with one of her BFs in the fall and they never made it there. It's just another of her hair brained schemes she throws out there. A few years ago it was Florida she was moving to, then she was going to work on a cruise ship and travel the world with SD. Always a new fantasy.
Peace, love, and red wine
Maybe one day
she'll actually do it eh? That would be good for you.
I used to think the way you do, that we were her only hope for normalcy. However, the older she got, the harder BM tried to make her cling to her more, so we just had to give up. I truly believe that that if, during one of her half assed attempts at suicide, SD (both of them) would have been better off if she would have succeded. I know that doesn't sound very Christian of me, but I believe it to be true. I'll probably go to hell for that one.
Her just running away made her life all that more exciting to the girls. As sexually aware as your SD is, she may think Vegas is right up her alley. I would be careful what you wish for.
When DH and I first got together, I used to wish that she would turn over the girls to us, so be careful what you wish for!!! I think the way they treated me was some kind of karma payback for me due to the way I had treated my own step mother. Although, I NEVER was as bad as my SD's. Maybe it is two fold??
be careful what you wish for
I remember in the back of my mind the warning from SD's psychologist that when we had full custody BM's Disney World parenting would get worse. I didn't care at the time because my thinking was that SD would have LESS Disney so it would be better. Well...BM only had her 12 out of 31 days before (no weekends then just MTW,) now it's 10 (EOW and E Wed.) So the exposure is just more concentrated now, due to the weekend time. It's far worse. I feel like BM decided she doesn't have to parent (ie make good decisions, set limits, be consistent, discipline SD) at ALL now. Like she's absolved of parenting because we are the parents.
I do think if her influence were removed by moving away, that at least SD wouldn't have the personality disorder reinforced all the time from BM's behavior and encouragement to misbehave.
But...I was wrong before eh?
Peace, love, and red wine
Went to church tonight
As I usually do and prayed that God helped me to overcome any animosity that I felt towards DH's son for all of the heartache that he's caused my DH. Like you robinson, I pray that once a move is made, it is for good.
I already plan on making DH's son's room a spare room for my 2 y.o. niece who will be spending a majority of the summer with us since her parents work full time and she wants to be with us anyhow. I don't foresee Precious wanting to come back to visit unless there's something in it for him like Christmas or his birthday.
I wish you much peace in this latest change. Keep up posted.
SO HAPPY for you both
Robinson and Steve!! it is nice to hear good news!!
"In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer." -Albert Camus