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Is this normal???

shadyj's picture

Ok. So I'm having issues with the 9 yr old SS still. My question is.
Is it normal for a boy his age to be so clingy with his mother? He
just always has to be around her and usually if she's out of the room
For more than 5 min he has to know where she is or what she's doing.
His 5 yr old brother is more independant than him. And is it normal behavior
For him to have such an attitude? Everything's always an argument with him
Or he's just rude. He always calls people liars or makes remarks that girls can't
Do certain things boys can cuz they suck like running or football. He has to know
Everything that's going on and always try's to be a part of adult conversations.
Drives me nuts!!! He's always walking up and shoving people or punching
Them (not hard) but still. Tells his moms she's fat cuz she has a slight roll from 2 c sections
But otherwise is a toothpick. I ask why she lets him say that to her and she replys
"he's just being honest" I think its disrespectful and rude and told him so. I don't
Have children of my own and we've been together 11 months. Is some of this normal?
He's watched her get hurt emotionally by more than one person in past relationships
so I can't help but wonder if there's not some underlying issues because he is not one
To discuss his feelings.

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mrs.g's picture

kids dont just spout things like that... its a learned behavior. Being as the relationship is relatively new I'm not sure how comfortable u ade talking to SO about it.... be positive around him and be consious of your words. hopefully itll rub off on him. Good luck!

Natalia Ely's picture

Maybe he's afraid that if he's not vigilent, you will hurt her by abandoning her and hitting her or something. He may be normal considering what he's been through, but not so normal compared to what your own childhood was like. At the same time, he may have learned behavior from the other men in her life. Sounds like he needs a sympathetic man in his life to show him that men can love his mother without hurting her or excluding him. "We love your mom, so we don't say things like that to her...." What do other people thnk?