I have been in a relationship for going on 10 months and everything about it is great except for the fact that there are 2 chilldren 2 SS 5 & 9. My gf moved to a different state to be closer to her family and I followed suit a month later. She had a job lined up as to where I did not. Not do to lack of trying. I've been here 3 weeks and am still looking. The problem is that I have pretty much taken on the parental duties due to her work schedule. The boys are very rambunctious as boys will be but I feel that when I have them there are rules they know to follow. My frustration come in when she is at home and its a whole nother ball game when I tell them something I stick to what I say but she doesn't. She gives in. They know if they throw the ball in the house its getting put up no questions asked but when she's there I can hear from upstairs them hit something with their ball and she just threatens to take it. They know the rules of the house but with her its just a lot of threats as to where with me I stand behind what I say. They know if they push and bug hard enough she'll give into them and it frustrates me so bad. Me and the boys have a good relationship but when mom comes home all hell breaks loose. Don't know what to do. Any advice????