Having a heard time staying a float and need to just vent. SD is really getting under my skin. She is 16 now and lives with her mother. Every time she comes over she complains and I bite my tongue in the fact that this is what she wanted. I have noticed more and more her not following with social distancing and then coming over here and not washing her hands and getting in my sons face whom is 8 months old. I have had multiple conversations with SO and told him we really need to be more causious since the virus is spiking again. Two weeks ago we picked her up on Friday and she was on her phone all night... not being social with us at all. She then told her dad that she wanted to go to a grad party Saturday. SO stated he did not want her to go because she does not follow with the social distancing per what he has been seeing on her instagram. That if she wants to go then her mother will have to pick her up and she will not be able to be over here for two weeks. She said ok. Sat morning rolled around and again not wanting to hang out with her brother or talk with us. She was pissy all morning because of something her mother had said. 

Last week my friend lost her mom whom was like a second mum to me. SD knew her very well. SO made plans to pick her up Sunday morning for the visitation. He called her that Sat night to reminder her about him picking her up the next morning at 9a. She got all pissy with him stating that she was not going because she already made plains to go boating. SO just stated ok. Come to find out she made plains with her new BF that he had no idea she had. BM no longer informs SO on what their daughter does in which that was part of the agreement when households got changed. I know we all do not like going to visitations, but its family.

There has been so many times my SO would reach out to see if she wanted to come over and hang out and she always stated no or had plans. She only wants to come over if we had something going on and ever time I would set up dinner and do a movie she would disappear. My SO is at the point to just let her come over when she wants... not even push when it’s his time. I told him I understand but then I asked him about this weekend if she was coming over. He told me no this morning.  I had made plans for us three tomorrow that takes reservations. Then just now he told me she would be coming over after she gets off work and that she works tomorrow afternoon. I then told him what is she going to do while we are out since reservations had already been made and I did not know she was going to be here after asking multiple times. He just shrugged his shoulders. I then told him that he needs to figure things out when it comes to our weekend if she is going to be here or not and not last minute shit cause whats going to happen is I am the asshole for not inviting her.

Now that she is working, SO has asked if I would take her to work. I stated yes but I want gas money since it take 20 min to get to her job. The fact that she is 16 and only has a permit because of her past behaviors. Instead of saving for a car she has been blowing her money on new clothes, spray tans, fake nails hair dye etc. So since I work hard for my money and to provide for my son, you want me to drive your child around because you are out of town for work and she does not have a car? Um if she had a car how is she getting gas to drive around.... ah her money?

Am I wrong for asking for gas money? Am I wrong that I do not want her here because of her negativity and that we/I have to drop what I have going on to help her. Sorry I could go on an on for hours but to get some off my chest is nice.