I am a mother of two boys (13 and 10) Recently married, but together for 3 years, my husband doesn't seem to see what his daughter is doing by manipulating him and his ex wife. He can't stand his ex, of course so anything his daughter says negative about her mom, he's ok with. I'm not ok with that. I have 2 boys who also have a father in their life and would not want them to speak or treat me the way she does her mother while with us. The thing about it is that I know she is doing the same thing to him/us when she is at her biomom's house. SD is with us 45% of the time, and my husband, like I said, hates his ex, and doesn't communicate with her about their daughter. SD uses this to her own advantage. I have to say, all of it drives me crazy! She now, and has for sometime, does it with me and my two boys. The lies!!!! Little stupid lies too! Almost as if she's just making things up to say to see if she can get away with it?!?!?
Has anyone ever encountered anything like this before??? I need help. I want to know how I can approach this matter with my husband.
Oh yeah and the other thing that drives me crazy is that his ex wife and I are opposites. She's more masculine and likes to do outdoorsy guy stuff, and I am a very feminine woman. Of course he would prefer his daughter to also be feminine, but she is 13 and could care less to even take a shower, much less be a girly girl. However, he seems to think that everyting I do for my own boys, regardless of what it is, that i should also do for her, and I just don't think that's fair to my own kids. He says he knows that she already has a mom but he likes the way I mother my kids and acts as if I'm suppose to be her mom. I don't think that is fair to her mom either.Am I wrong? She has a mother. Shouldn't her mother do the mother type things for her?