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Update to the Funeral from Yesterday

round2's picture

Submitted by round2 on Thu, 09/04/2014 - 11:25am

My co-worker came back to work today and I was ready to pounce for scoop when he got in the office!

He said they all knew the ex-wife was going to be there, they had invited her. Felt it was the right thing to do. He confirmed that she has always been and is still incredibly bitter about the divorce....35 years ago.

I asked him if the deceased had walked away from the kids and had little to do with them after he remarried. He said it was the exact opposite, he wanted to be involved and the ex-wife kept him away for most of the lives due to her anger about the split. PAS has been going on for a long damn time obviously.

One of the bio-kids came up to the SM after the service and begged for her forgiveness - NONE of the bio-kids knew what their mother was going to do and were not sure how to stop her. They didn't want their SM to think they planned this or condoned it. Silver lining I suppose.

Co-worker said he was waiting for word from his wife or MIL to go get her off the podium but they were loath to create more of a scene than ex-wife was already making. Score one for the classy SM in this situation,

What else? SM is doing ok, not great. Lot's of family still in town so she is distracted.

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msg1986's picture

Submitted by msg1986 on Thu, 09/04/2014 - 11:34am

That's insane, I could TOTALLY see my MIL doing something this. She and FIL have been divorced for already like 19 years or something and she's as bitter as could be which is strange because she's been remarried for like 8 or 9 years.

My heart goes out to the Sm. Sad I'm glad the kids apologized, I'm sure it meant a lot to Sm.

Thanks for the update.

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Submitted by ChiefGrownup on Thu, 09/04/2014 - 12:04pm

Apology from the stepkids = priceless.

Very, very nice. Not at all surprised at what the back story turned out to be. Thanks so much for sharing it with us.

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Submitted by Mercury on Thu, 09/04/2014 - 12:23pm

Sadly, this is what I expected from the kind of person who would show up to an ex's funeral.

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Submitted by Jsmom on Thu, 09/04/2014 - 12:37pm

Scary thing is I could see my mom doing this at my Dad's funeral...She tried to PAS us. Worked on my sisters, but not me. They divorced in the 90's and she never got over it.