Ok, first, the most "right now". Just wanted to know what some ppl think about this sitch: We have a fairly small apartment. So much so that we can see into SS15's room and onto the bed from the living room and my computer. We also have no couch in the living room (takes up too much space).So, I think it's ok if SS15 and gf lay on his bed to talk/share music/text/facebook/etc. BM is not comfortable with them "making out" which generally consists of kissing with their arms wrapped around each other, so I try to stick to her wishes. But, seriously, I'd rather have them doing that than hanging out at her parents' place where they are allowed to hang upstairs in her bedroom without any supervision. Am I wrong? I feel like if I start being all anal and scared, that's what they'll do. What are some thoughts?

Ok, second was some memories as encouragement for some other SMs. I noticed a few posts about kids starting to explore sexuality and getting first gfs and such. Just thought I'd pass on this funny little story. When SS15 was 10, I married his dad. About 6 months later, I was at a scrapbooking day when I got a text from SS that he had something he wanted to talk to me about, but didn't want to talk... just text. I had a feeling that it had something to do with sex because he had been asking stuff recently and he seemed totally freaked out. He told me that he had some dreams about me and him having sex. I FREAKED OUT! He doesn't know that, though. I called my dad and asked him what I should do and say so that I don't scar this kid, but I get it across that it's not ok to fantasize on those dreams. My dad gave me some great advice and I told SS that "It's normal to have dreams about women in your life that are not your mother. for some guys it's your teacher, or the librarian, or a friend's mom. I guess I just fit that mold. That does not mean anything will every happen between us because I love your dad and only your dad. I'm flattered, but you need to know that. So, don't be embarassed, but also don't be worried." It turned out fine and he's totally normal now and thinks that boys that think I'm "hot" are gross. Glad to be the second mom.