I've never done it, and don't think I'd even consider it. I think the moment I started to look for ways to live away from my husband, we've reached the end and it's time to move on.

If he's not open to counseling or changing, I'm not sure living away and giving him free reign to do whatever he wants will solve anything.

Best of luck to you .. I know it's not an easy path.

We lived separately for a little white due to work. I'd go to my parents in the neighboring state four days a week, he'd go to his apartment, and the remaining three days we'd stay at "our" house. It did get too much after a while though, and now we're mostly together full time, switching between his apartment and my house, but that may have been the newlywed mentality. I like having my own house and space that he comes home because I can do what I want here, and then going to his place for a bit to shake it up like a vacation.

My main reason for having my own space is because he likes decorating his place his way and I like decorating mine my way. Lol, we're both way stubborn on that.

Really don't see how this would work... what are you going to live apart from your husband for the next at a min. 13 years?!?! I think if you are already at this point, that the marriage is over and you just aren’t willing to admit it. There is not much of a marriage at all if you two were to be living apart for 13 years. I would say cut your losses and leave for real, or get into some counseling ASAP. It sounds like you AND your DH needs it because if he is treating you so bad that you are willing to live apart than there are some serious problems.

Yes, we've been doing it now for 2 months. It works but you have to make sure both are on the same page & have the same intentions & expectations. Just be very clear & truthful with each other. If either of you are afraid of bringing up something or holding back some truths, then it won't work---because that's just another form or running away from it even if temporarily. We talked about I how felt & how DH felt about this whole mess. It's easier now to talk openly without our defenses up & without interruption from skid or BM.

It's saved our relationship. I still see him everyday & talk to him everyday because we go back in forth, few days here, few days there, a week not seeing each other, etc. This will continue till end of summer we agreed on. Good luck to you though

Here's the question: Is it your house or his? I ask this because if a DH is poverty stricken, paying CS and living in YOUR house, you'll never get him out (ask me how I know this) I would NEVER allow a guy into my house EVER again!

I believe the only way it can work, is by doing EXACTLY what Shook had said. After being married close to ten years, DH of that time and I lived in two separate homes. We were not on the same page and ended in divorce. For it to work..it takes a lot of communication and wanting the same thing IMO.

I think it could work. There would have to be lot of communication though.

I actually commend you for trying to find away to save and keep your marriage and not just throw it away like yesterdays garbage. Commitment must really mean something to you.

It's hard. But I'm doing this right now. I just couldn't live with the stress anymore right now.

I don't think I could do it. Life is too short to spend it not living with the person you're committed to. either you figure it out together, or you go your separate ways. Just my opinion.