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Submitted by regmom on Tue, 03/08/2011 - 1:04pm

BM owes me money. She asked huby to help her out and he took some stuff from our account without telling me and told me just before bed. She said she would pay but she hasnt. Do i have to demand it myself or should i let huby do it? Am going hungry sometimes and its been 3 months

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simifan's picture

Submitted by simifan on Tue, 03/08/2011 - 2:43pm

He would be getting a second & third job NOW !!! I would be pissed enough if he gave BM one extra dime and we had the money. You're going hungry AND gave BM money - think about that & what it says about his priorities. That would be grounds for divorce in my opinion.

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Submitted by Jsmom on Tue, 03/08/2011 - 2:48pm

THis is why you have separate accounts. Learn from this. He owes you the money. Not BM. You can kiss that good-bye. Separate all finances from him. Pay for nothing for his kids or his life. Split everything. Works for me and DH and their are no fights over money. We have agreed not to blend any funds until kids are over 18 and we are done paying for college....

paul_in_utah's picture

Submitted by paul_in_utah on Tue, 03/08/2011 - 2:51pm

We have separate finances too. Whoever said to use joint accounts with skids in the household is an idiot.

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Submitted by somerg on Tue, 03/08/2011 - 2:51pm

get it from dh and let him get it back from bm

i agree with jsmom, there is not a single account or bank account that is joint for us...it's either mine, or his

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Submitted by pickle on Tue, 03/08/2011 - 3:29pm

My partner did the same thing to me. From our joint account he took money($300.00) and told me not to ask what it was for as he wanted to get a suprise for me. I knew he was lying the minute he said it and bided my time till I had evidence where that money went. He had paid his ex wifes final phone bill because he never bothered to change the account out of his name and she tried to stiff him. Well that blew up in his face and I told him till I received a cheque from her for the $300.00 I would be throwing it in his face.

The time came when they had to pay for something joint for $775.00 and I told him and I told him that tell her she can pay $700.00 you will pay $75.00 as she owes you for the phone bill...she whimpered a bit but he wouldnt give in and she paid up much to my DELIGHT!!!!!!!!!. After that I said it was done with and I wouldnt mention it again but if I was lied to ever again that was it for us. Im not here to support someones ex or their ungrateful child (CS is fine...buying their cigarettes and friends bday presents is not when kid wants to sit in bed all day and not work or go to school)

If he ever did it again there wouldnt even be a discussion about it, our relationship would be over. Im not into self torture. I will not go without while the ex gets a free ride ever again!!

Get that money back and make it clear its NEVER to happen again.