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Submitted by ravennakool on Wed, 12/19/2018 - 11:18am

We went to the wal-mart to get some things and we ran into Bm, Ss15,Ss13, and Sd12. No problem, the kids come and greet us. Bm was getting fruit. A gentleman approached her and started talking to her. 

Bm is been hitting the gym, she changed her hair style, and has a whole new wardrobe. She transformed herself and I'm glad she did. From what  I heard, she was having issues with her self-esteem. As this gentleman is talking to her, Dh just kept staring at her. I tried to ignore it while the skids were talking to me but I could tell he was staring at her. He looked like he was in awe. 

I'm assuming the gentleman  gave her his number because she gave him her cell phone; Dh looked pissed. He was almost angry. I could tell from his body language. 

I confronted him in the car and he denied it saying he ws just deep in thought. I left it alone but I'm still bothered by it. 

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Wed, 12/19/2018 - 12:15pm

Castrate him? J/K

I think it was a normal reaction, however, I would be pissed if it was my husband. I think it is time to buy some naughty lingere and remind him of what he has at home with you!

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Wed, 12/19/2018 - 12:35pm

make it a competition (or try to).   Chef is overly macho and StepDaddyBigBucks is one of those "Yes Ma'am" types.   Why can't there be a happy medium? 

I hope the BM can some how patch those holes in her clothing that H burned with his stare.  What an ASSHAT. 

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Submitted by tog redux on Wed, 12/19/2018 - 3:18pm

If my DH ever did this to BM, I'd think he'd had a TBI or was in a psychotic episode.

He does look at other women, though, and I don't care.  I know he loves me. Smile

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Submitted by susanm on Wed, 12/19/2018 - 4:02pm

I think I would take the bull by the horns and just say "Look, BM managed to get herself together to get back on the market.  If you are feeling some kind of way because she is looking like the woman you fell in love with all those years ago that is perfectly normal but you need to remember that she is also the same woman you divorced because you could no longer live together.  So get your head out of your ass and stop walking down memory lane like a lovesick teenager or we are going to have a problem."  If he denies it I would call bullsh*t and tell him everyone in the place could read the look on his face.  There is probably an element of his own "longing for lost youth" in there as well seeing her all rejuvenated. Doesn't mean that he still loves her or wants her.  Everyone has fleeting moments when they want to turn back the clock.  But he can damned well keep them to himself and not hurt your feelings.

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Submitted by advice.only2 on Wed, 12/19/2018 - 4:11pm

"Wow DH all the CS and alimony you are paying to BM sure is paying off, she must have an amazing trainer and surgeon....I wonder how much I could get if I left you...."

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Submitted by susanm on Wed, 12/19/2018 - 4:23pm

LOL  Nice.  "It really is amazing what a good doctor can do, huh?  I have been thinking of getting a few things done myself.  Little nip here, a tuck there.  Maybe some dermabrasion and botox.  Just a bit of "freshening" like BM had.  How is our savings account looking?"

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Submitted by susanm on Wed, 12/19/2018 - 9:33pm

Luckily it happened in Wal-Mart so everything necessary would be available.  Kerosene, matches, a video camera to record the special moment, running shoes for a quick getaway...

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Submitted by ProbablyAlready... on Thu, 12/20/2018 - 8:21am

Oh my gosh I'm dying.

This would be my response too. Him, possibly her too. If you're gonna snap, might as well do it all the way....

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Thu, 12/20/2018 - 11:07am

Lol. My SO would find himself holding his eyeballs in his hands after I ripped them out with my bare hands.

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Thu, 12/20/2018 - 7:20am

So I'll give your DH the benefit of the doubt.

IF he is paying CS/alimony, she isn't working or is purposefully underemployed, and/or constantly has her hand out asking for cash "for the kids", I could see him staring at her in deep thought.

That deep thought would be, "how is it that she can't manage to buy the kids underwear but can fill her lips with toxins?!"

OR, if she were frumpy once they got married because she "caught herself a man" and now she is looking fine, your DH may be thinking she is on the prowl again.

Also, I think many parents would be angry if their ex exchanged phone numbers in front of the kids. Likely, the dude who approached her isn't interested in her personality. He wants to test drive the new model, and there is a bit of ick factor of the kids "meeting" a future f**k buddy in Walmart. I don't think the anger is "how dare you get a number in front of me, your husband!" and more "how dare you get a number in front of your children for some dude that will pour $2 bottle house wine down your throat so you spread them a bit wider".

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Submitted by agitated on Thu, 12/20/2018 - 10:23am

I would be P***SED!!!! I am 1000000% different than any other person my DH has dated (probably why he married me). He likes tall, skinny brunettes. I am on the short side, average size, and a redhead (more auburny brown). Honestly, I probably would have slapped the crap out of him right there in Walmart! This scenario woudl not have gone over well in my house.