FDH has always turned a blind eye to the way BM manipulates situations. He acts like your typical guilty daddy, even though he has had the kids primarily since they split (when she went to jail for assaulting him). Time after time, when it's her weekend with the skids (she has them 1 night/week and EOWE), something comes up Friday night and she can't take them. We had them three weekends in a row, and on her first weekend she tried to pull the "I have to work" card on Friday night - 2 hours before she's supposed to pick them. We had plans that night so FDH dropped the skids off for her boyfriend to watch for a couple of hours.

Tonight starts her next weekend.... and you guessed it! She has to work and wants to pick them up tomorrow morning, and JUST let him know this. No regard for whether or not we have plans (we're both working tomorrow morning), and now FDH is left with the choice of dropping them off at her house to sit alone all night, or keeping them (which would spoil my mood for sure). After the stunt she pulled yesterday (dropping them off at home after a night at her house with no warning instead of just getting them to school) FDH is pissed.

Whatever. I just don't want to hear it - he should have nipped this shit in the bud years ago, instead of being so amenable to her last minute BS. She knows she can play on his guilty daddy heartstrings, and she does. I bet she doesn't even have to work, and just wants to party (she's pulled that stunt before).

The whole work thing (she works retail, so we understand that her hours vary, even though she supposedly just got a "huge" promotion and better hours) wouldn't be such a big deal if she actually gave notice, more than a couple of hours. But this shit happens every single time her weekends roll around. We have firm plans for the next Friday she's supposed to have them, so work or not, the skids will be at her house. Or I'll be going out alone. I spend enough of my life with these kids because she can't be bothered to step up.