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Submitted by purpledaisies on Wed, 09/14/2011 - 12:07pm

Dh called bm and was on the phone with her all night monday and yesterday, she hung up on him 3 times! He called her an fing idiot. lol

Anyway I think she is coming around as of yesterday she said that she is going to try with the truck again to see if ss15 will drive it. Dh pretty much told her that he will not stand by and watch them put ss in that position to hurt himself or others or the worst kill himself or others. He pretty much told her that she doesn't understand the magnitude of what this car is going to do to him or her for that matter. He is afraid that this is going to send a mess to ss that he can now spend and show his butt and get hurt then he has the pressure of a job to pay for it.

Bm claims she had no idea about the loan aunt is going to get and make ss pay for and she said they were JUST looking at the corvette that it wasn't set in stone.
We are making progress b/c this is her way of saying dh is right but it has to be her idea. So I am HOPING that she will call in about a week and say that the car cost too much and they will go a different route.

Like I said it isn't about him getting a car or anything like that it is about THE car they are going to her him and the pressure of him having to pay the loan and the ins on that thing.

Dh did tell bm that she needs to just tell ss that this is the car you will drive you wanted this truck you have this truck now drive it.

Bm did say that all ss friends are being handed new hummers and mustangs and other types of cars like that and he should get one too just b/c they are getting one. What is her problem? Really? I told dh that just b/c his friends are getting cars like that doesn't mean he should get one and that as parents it is our job to make sure they are safe and this is NOT safe. And we have to say no and have our kid not like us which is what a parents job is! Who cares if he is mad at us he is safe!

Dh told bm that just b/c his friends are getting cars like that doesn't mean that if you CAN"T afford it you should buy it anyway. She can't afford it no way no how (she doesn't have a job her choice) Her aunt can't afford it hence why she wants ss15 to pay for it.

So here is hoping that bm will turn it around to being her idea of saying no. lol

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Submitted by Jsmom on Wed, 09/14/2011 - 12:32pm

Gotta love it...We have the same pressure here with kids getting over the top cars when they get their licenses. My son got a used truck from my Dad and only when he had finished his Eagle Project. He drives to school now and only because Sd15 was being a brat to him on the bus. But, I originally only said he could for senior year. If Dad hadn't given him the truck I was planning on buying a used car for him in 6 months. Something cheap that I could pay cash for. No loan. We pay his car insurance and only on the condition that he has straight A's. They drop and the car is parked. If you do not set limitations on these kids, they will not set them for themselves. Shame on your BM for not seeing that. She is setting him up for credit problems already by giving him what he can not afford.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Wed, 09/14/2011 - 12:42pm

I know that was something dh addressed to bm as well that he doesn't need that pressure to pay on a loan at his age. And we all know that kids are stupid and have stupid ideas but that doesn't mean that we have to say yes to all those stupid ideas! It is our job as parents to say that is a stupid idea and no.

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Submitted by oneoffour on Wed, 09/14/2011 - 12:55pm

OK so this car isn't a gift but a roundabout loaner until the boy pays it off. Hmmm. So how much money do they think SS15 can earn an hr? Minimum is $7:25. So let's be generous and say he is earning $7:50 p/hr and working 12 hrs a wee. $48 p/week less tax so say $45 per week. What kind of Corvette do you think he will get for less than $200 a month? Not to mention insurance and gas and maintainence...

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Wed, 09/14/2011 - 1:10pm

oneoffour that is what dh was trying to tell bm. We feel like on top of that fact that they are putting this kid in danger with this car that they are putting setting him up for failure to pay for this car and the ins and the gas and the maintenance.

Dh told bm that they need to tell ss15 that he needs to stick to the truck they bought him til he can pay for a car like this on his own. First he would be more mature and he can pay for it in his name and the only pressure he will have is from himself not from someone else that the loans name is in.

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Submitted by Mom2mine on Wed, 09/14/2011 - 5:32pm

Yeah-my SS9 is already planning on getting a Mustang n mind u it will obviously b a newer one n IM SURE that Grammy will b paying for it....bc she pays for everything!!! ALSO keep in mind that my SS cannot walk from the kitchen to the bathroom w/o running into the sofa....EVERY TIME!!! THE SOFA DOES NOT MOVE!!! Ha! Bless that child-but I'm seriously scared to death for when he starts to drive....I can assure u if I was in charge of car selection for him it would b an extremely old El Camino!! Those things were made out of solid metal n r almost bullet proof!! Ha!

Point being-I feel ur pain n am not looking forward to being in UR shoes in a few years!!