It wasn't his news to share and you have a right to feel upset by this. Like you, I always preferred that MY business be kept between xDH and myself. I didn't go telling HIS news to my family. Many times, the SK's would report back to BM and then she would either tell other members of HIS family or email, post on FB, etc. It would drive me insane UNTIL, I made up a big fat lie to share with the SK's about xDH just to prove my point about OUR business being broadcast. After that, he STFU about everything going on.... good or bad. It's sad that I had to resort to this method to get my point across but, sometimes with these wimpy DH's.... a girl's gotta do, what a girl's gotta do, lol.

I will never understand WHY these men feel to need to share EVERY damn aspect of their lives with their kids! Good grief, is there absolutely NO boundary that won't be crossed??? (sic) Sorry, kinda went off on a little rant there, lol.

While he had no business doing what he did (he should not be sharing your personal life without your consent and/or allowing you to share your own news), I'll give him one tiny bit of break (very tiny). This has affected him also. He's been with you since the truth came out and he's seen the tailspin and felt the anxiety (anger, fear, excitement, anticipation ect) right alone with you.

I'd hope he didn't do it to be the family busybody, but instead because he felt a need to have someone he could share his emotional week with. Yeah, bad on him but he gets a couple points for spilling to his trusted kids (even if not really trustworthy) than running around at work and/or the local coffee table blabbing and telling the world. You do need to discuss this with him. It's not ok to do what he did. This is your personal life. You are the one and only one who should be sharing this and deciding who you'd like to share it with. He made a decision that wasn't his to make and that part is very wrong. But husband loves you and I doubt he meant to betray nor upset you. He needs to now tell his kids that this is private information and not to share what they know until or if they have your permission to. It's none of BM's business at anytime. Not now. Not ever. It's not a 'secret' so to say, but it simply was not his place nor their place to discuss the news with others. You don't need the extra stress and BS and your personal business is just that, yours and and your personal life is to be respected.

Then feel free to kick his shins. How dare he spread what was not his to share.