VENT: so we ended up swapping w/his ex some weekends because you know-she just HAD to have Halloween w/her girl.

What a crock of shit. The wknd swap consists of us being off schedule an entire month-where we have mine or his.
I thought my bf was just being a mad ex when he suggested that his exe's halloween would probably suck anyway. I said, well maybe she had something big planned. Thinking he's just talking out of his butt lol...but he's never wrong!

Ok, so I see over and over vents about Bmoms, skids, and i do my fair share of bmom complaints lol...right now I just want to vent about their deadbeat dad.

You know-since they were born and before we divorced I already took on the majority of responsibility with them-hence why he never argued for custody or even took advantage of the generous visitation he was offered. He's always done the minimum.

I mean...ok so luckily still the ex doesn't have my bf's n...that's a good thing. We dont' have to hear from her when we have the girl. YEs-it's stressful, Sunday her and my youngest fought-but overall it was much less then other wknds.

I have a question for you...first, how many here deal with it?

Second, what is the kids situation at the custodial parents house (if it's say the mom). Good, bad?

Third, have you asked him why he feels guilt and why he parents/doesn't parent based on how he feels?

Have you really listened to his motives, fears, point of view, and hopelesness, the despair. Have you heard him?
Do you encourage him while being understanding and empathizing with him, and perhaps trying to guide more discipline from his end?