I'm thinking about Xmas this year, and SD14. As I mentioned in my past blog, due to BM being pregnant, we were informed 3 days before Thanksgiving that it was our responsibility to get SD to and from her football game (cheerleading) on thanksgiving day, despite the fact it is less than 2 miles from the BMs house, and she had no plans. Anyway, b/c of that, FH and I opted to make thanksgiving dinner at our home (we weren't going to) have SD over weds night, and then back to our house after the game instead of to BMs.

well, so much for northern keeping her mouth shut about the list. I just couldn't, I was too pissed. I confronted F when he got home, and he said he already told SD that Mon. and Thurs she would have to find other arrangements (nights where he is working late). What he failed to mention was that he had to drive her last night too. >:( I found that out when I suggested we go together to get movies and pies for our holiday after work, and he said he had to get SD to cheerleading by 6.

I read a lot here about BF and BM guilt parenting the skids, but what about us stepmoms and dads? In some ways, I think I may be guilt parenting sd14. More often then not, SD arrives for her weekly visitation, I'll have left her something on her bed. Its usually not anything expensive, a book, a cool pen, a sweater I saw on sale that I thought she'd like, things like that.

just wanted to chime in, I am still around, not posting much, but reading and empathizing! I had a knife fight with a pumpkin the Sunday before Halloween, a ridiculous carving session gone awry and I ended up in the ER. I severed a tendon in one of the fingers of my left (dominant) hand, and I had to have surgery on halloween. I have a cast right now and then will have a plastic brace thing for 6-8 weeks, and have 6-8 months of pt and recovery beyond that.