SD-17 and pregnant on purpose.

In the beginning, SD seemed to want a relationship. She didn't have a woman's influence in her life. BM doesn't want to participate. Things changed when her BF dumped her (getting pregnant came after three months of trying to win him back).

I never did really understand the relationship she had with her father. When parents divorced she asked to go with dad. I never see them hug and rarely hear "I love you". Dad wanted her to have everything he didn't. He also wanted to avoid conflict so gave in. Things changed when I began to see how she really is. She lies, manipulates, and throws temper tantrums, which her dad would give into.

She has caused many conflicts between me and DH. She does something cruel to hurt me -- and admits to doing it. Before too long DH has changed it to "she didn't mean to do it, she is only a kid." And then would blame me for seeing only the bad in his daughter.

EX: I was abused and I hate to see anyone abused She came home crying that the ex-bf beat her up - knowing I would do something. Then two days later she said she lied just to get him in trouble. All because he didn't want to spend time with her. To punish her, DH took her car away for two weeks. SD threw tantrum, screamed and hollered until DH gave her the car back. Nothing happened to her for what she did. She got her way. And DH and I almost separated.

One of her biggest complaints is that she wants to be #1 period. That means she gets everything her way and I am nothing but a maid and cook.

DH is starting to see what I have been telling him about his princess. He is slow but he is beginning to understand that she is a problem that will ultimately destroy us. I just hope he can change in time to save our relationship. I just don't know if he CAN do tough love.