My DH and I were planning our wedding when - surprise- my soon to be SD-17 announced she is pregnant. On purpose. In a blink of an eye, my life and my relationship changed. My two sons are in college and SD lives with us.

SD decided to get pregnant to "trap" a boy. She convinced herself that this particular young man would fall in love with her if she presented him with a child. What she didn't calculate in is the fact that at 19 he was no way ready to settle down in adulthood. Much less take care of a child.

So her father and I dropped our wedding plans, went to the justice of the peace, and set out to help her through this. And so here we are.

I had known my SD for over a year, but the person she is now is a totally different person. I am totally surprised at how unprepared for this she is -- and unwilling to grown up and take care of her responsibilities.

The ex is around, but has as little as possible to do with her child. Already said she could not be bothered helping with this pregnancy or the baby. DH and I have different parenting styles. He allowed his daughter the run of the house. In her words, "I'm the queen."

Well that might have been in the past, but there is a new queen in town.