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Submitted by nkbrown on Fri, 04/16/2010 - 7:06am

The last straw -- I have had it. I am done.

SD-17 does care about anyone but herself - she doesn't even care about the welfare of her unborn child.

She continues to lie, manipulate, steal, etc. I have tried everything I can to help her. She just lies to my face as sweet as can be.

When her father finally tried to say something to her about the fact that she is failing and not going to graduate -- she told him "Don't talk to me" and walked away. He just shrugged his shoulders and said "I tried."

Frustrated with SD

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Submitted by nkbrown on Tue, 04/13/2010 - 1:35pm

I just recently posted about my SD-17 learning a lesson. And before I could finish shutting down my computer - I found out she is not dong her school work again -- and going to see her ex.

It seems she is determined to shoot herself in the foot.

She is one credit away from not graduating this year. And now she is failing the class she needs to graduate. Teacher doesn't know if there will be enough grades to make up for the work SD has missed so far -- so she might fail.

New adventures in step-parenting

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Submitted by nkbrown on Tue, 04/13/2010 - 12:38pm

Ok as you know DH and BM pretty much gave me charge of SD-17 to get her ready to take responsibility for her upcoming baby.

So I started with giving her chores around the house. At first she seemed to get a kick out of doing the work. I had to show her how to dust, sweep and clean a toliet. Hey, I figure she is the one throwing up in it -- she should know how to clean it.

Unbelievable

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Submitted by nkbrown on Fri, 04/09/2010 - 2:35pm

I am getting sick of the "good luck" SD has. It seems that her entire life she has gotten what she wanted....from dad, BM, grandparents, friends, teachers, etc......before it's all over she will have this baby turn into something postive for her.

Her getting her way has ruined my relationship with her father. EX: she does something cruel to me. DH punishes her by taking her car. She screams and cries and gets it back the same day.

Heart says stay - mind says go

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Submitted by nkbrown on Fri, 04/09/2010 - 7:31am

Well things seem to have leveled out a little bit. SD-17 is doing more and more around the house. Once I showed her how to clean. (I can't imagine how she went 17 years without having to do chores.)

BM seems to be at least pretending to try. SD has prom coming up. BM offered to pay for getting her hair done and buy all the needed accessories. She went so far as to ask me to go with her and SD shopping. Not gonna happen.

My experiences as a SD

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Submitted by nkbrown on Mon, 04/05/2010 - 8:18am

My BD was gone before I was two. He remarried numerous times. So did my mother. So I was exposed to a variety of step siblings and stepparents.

One of my SS tied me to an exercise machine when I was 5 and then left the house. She was 14 and was babysitting me. When she came back I was so sick that I had to be taken to the hospital. SM blamed me for being a "handful"

My first SF was abusive physically and emotionally. It took him driving my two BBs from the home and beating me at age 10 for my BM to divorce him.

Ex-BF changes mind. Wants baby.

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Submitted by nkbrown on Sun, 04/04/2010 - 9:01am

We have had an interesting weekend here in the crazy casa. SD has been fighting with her ex about the baby.

Here is the interesting and honestly, stupid, facts. SD got pregnant on purpose to trap this boy. Now he says he doesn't want anything to do with her or the baby. He refused to tell his parents because they would kick him out. He tells me and DH he wants to relinquish rights to the kid.

I'm an idiot

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Submitted by nkbrown on Sat, 04/03/2010 - 12:32pm

After long long long discussions wit Dh and SD, I am still here. Now I am about to go meet and speak with BM.

But, SD sat down and told her dad that she needs more discipline and direction. She knows she has lied, stole, manipulation, and took advantage of her parents. She and I sat down and she told me just about everything I wanted to know -- truth hurts but it helps us now take some positive steps forward. SD wants help to grow up - her words.

I might be an idiot - but I'm still here.

Love lost due to SD situation

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Submitted by nkbrown on Thu, 04/01/2010 - 2:27pm

I told DH that I am going to be moving out for a few days, weeks, or more. He is trying his best to assure me that he will change and put the marriage first. But we are to the point that the only conversation we have is about SD-17 and her pregnancy. I don't think I could have a discussion without her being brought up....in fact when I asked him what he wanted for the two of us (him and me) he told me he wanted his daughter to grow up and learn to take care of herself.....says it all don't it.

Blame the parents or the pregnant SD

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Submitted by nkbrown on Thu, 04/01/2010 - 10:10am

Those of you who have read my other blogs know I am dealing with a major mess. Newly married my SD-17 got pregnant on purpose to trap a boy. She is manipulative, a liar, a theif and more. Discussing her attitude, rudeness and lack of responsibility - she told me (in front of her father) she was not raised to do that. Sadly, DH didn't voice a disagreement.

I am a strong willed, disciplined person. I raised two BSs on my own. Both are in college. They were raised to be helpful, respectful and responsible. I expect the same from her.

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