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SK's comin over ...should I fish for info?

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Submitted by newmom01 on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 2:43pm

I will be alone with them for a few hours, should I throw out a few questions to see what they say just to find out what is going on over there?

I dont like to be caught off gaurd, I like to be prepared, it has been really quiet lately. I MUST KNOW :?

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newmom01's picture

Submitted by newmom01 on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 2:53pm

Are they being left with thier grandparents and step dad alot while bm is out ...And if they are going on some type of vacation.. and if step dad has found a job yet. And of course to see what she is saying about me these days

usually I dont care, But like I said in this post and another one a few weeks ago....its just too quiet, I DONT want something to happen but this is not normal for bm ......she is always on dh about something, but not lately or dh just is not tellin me about it

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Submitted by CalgonTakeMeAway on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 3:55pm

I agree with this. My skids are not allowed to talk about what happens at their mom's at all. The only questions I ask are general, what's new, do anything fun over the weekend? One time, I asked SS if they had done anything fun over the weekend, and he just said no. We found out a few days later that they had MOVED. He didn't even tell us that they moved! If BM gets wind that you're asking questions, she's gonna clamp down even harder. There was one occasion that I asked SD something that I actually got info, but that's very rare. I would leave well enough alone. It sounds like you're already on guard in case something happens.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 3:35pm

Don't ask directly. this is what I do I ask the skids if have a problem and make it clear they can talk to me but I do not push it. That is all I say. Over the years ss15 is the only one that seems to really talk to me and he has to vent big time. I find things out from him. Or ask how are they doing general questions that might open them up. But never ask directly anything about their mom or their life with her.

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Submitted by starfish on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 6:01pm

jj, love it.... that is exactly what i do and ss sings like a bird.. sd did in the past, but she has become such a liar and thieving whore in training these days, i don't believe a word she says, and ss always calls her out on her lies.. so she says little when he is around, i guess b/c if she's speaking, she's telling lies...