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It's so crazy... What I have to go through to try and remain happy...

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My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now and we've had our ups and downs. Trying to acclimate to this roller coaster of life as a monthly stepmom is an adventure. I am growing to care for my SD more and more as time goes by, which is rather surprising but very well welcomed. However, I'm struggling to stay happy with my husband. He's a good father, good man, but he kinda sucks as a husband. Not to mention he still holds BM high on a pedestal, even though he would be the first to tell you he doesn't even think about her.

Maybe it's my feelings towards the BM that causes me to act this way???

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So, I've been married for a year now... it sure has gone by fast. I still haven't been able to really open up to my SD3 yet. She is a nice little girl and acts like a 3 yr old in her situation would... I guess. I don't have any children of my own so not really sure how you're suppose to be a mom. So far, everytime my SD3 has come over to visit, I've been elsewhere. My DH and her spend their time downstairs and I'm upstairs just waiting until it's time for her to go home. It's not that I dislike her per say, or maybe I do dislike her. I can't say what this feeling is really.

DH can KEEP struggling... when he realizes he needs help, DONT COME TO ME!

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So I talked to the idiot (DH) last night about him being a doormat all the time for BM to walk on anytime she wants. I also explained to him what is included in his court order cause he is too careless to find out for himself. Let him know what's what and that paying for extracurricular activities for his daughter is not his obligation. This guy is in debt up to the COT DAMN YING YANG... and yet he can spend money on things he doesn't even have to spend it on. NEVERMIND the money he is giving to BM is coming from ME!!!!

I really need to pray more...

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My husband is wonderful and very loving and is a wonderful father to his daughter. I would do anything for this man, y'know? Who wouldn't lay down the necessary sacrifices for their loved ones/significant other just so they can be happy or won't have to suffer? My husband just doesn't realize how much he's being taken advantage of by his daughter's mother. He got trapped in the first place, and while I believe that NO child is a mistake, he should have been a little more weary of laying down in the rain with someone without a raincoat on, even when she says "it's ok".