It's Our Job to Entertain SS?
The latest in our never-ending saga comes from the only therapist in the world that BM and DH could agree to use...
Apparently, SS doesn't like coming to our house because it's boring for him, which is why he refuses visits. We don't make his bio-sister and DD play with him. (Because they're 11 and 10, and he's 6.5.)
Honestly, it probably is boring for him, since he's lost every privilege in the world at our house (all electronics, really) due to his terrible attitude toward everyone, but he has toys and books and games to play with, both inside and out. But we have rules and we tell him no, so it must be terrible.
And therapist has issues with the idea that what activities we do on on weekends are for the whole family instead of just with SS. It seems that I should be paying for DH to entertain SS as SS sees fit, without engaging with the rest of the family. She's also quite sure that BM is talking sh*t about us, but she's not going to address that because the court doesn't care about PA.
I know we need a new therapist, but that's simply not happening. DH feels like this woman is gaslighting him as much (or more!) than BM does.
My advice to DH is as it has been: Make him do full visitation. He may be miserable while he's there, but that's really not our problem...
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And because a lot of
And because a lot of "experts" themselves are PASers.
Look at the PASinator, the Girhippo, who is now a supervisor at CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES.
OC and that goofy hat!! i do
OC and that goofy hat!! i do miss his wit. and Old Dart too, i worry about him often.
that and how his hands made
that and how his hands made typing more and more difficult. that always made me so sad
he was always so sweet, and i'm sure has no idea how many lives he touched!
On his website there are PDF
On his website there are PDF printable letters YOU cant print out and shove it, I mean hand to the counselor.
Then on Monday I would report him/her to the APA...
I love this. ^^^^^^^
Yep. Chef went that route of
Yep. Chef went that route of entitlement training, err I mean Disney Dad weekends.
It just reinforces a child's natural narcissistic tendencies; which is something that children need to be trained OUT OF. Secondarily, it causes a child to lose respect for the parent while wanting more and more.
The child soon becomes insatiable for FUN. The attention span further diminishes, the child becomes unpleaseable and permanently in a depressed state. Thus paving the way for the PASer parent to make even more inroads. Academics suffer; the child becomes anti social and addicted to electronics.
In the end, the child's behaviour becomes intolerable; all respect for parents and authority in general goes out the window and you have full blown delinquency. The child now despises both parents and subconsciously resents both for not parenting firmly, lovingly and providing the security and guidance that only adults can provide who are not competing to see who can be the child's "bestie."
Its all I can do to keep from saying to Chef "told ya so!"