Regarding my previous post I have told DH where I stand with SD he claims he understands how I feel but his issue seems to be more with SD foster child 8 she took  the child on at the age of 3, between the age of 3 to 4 we saw her around 6 times but SD would always accuse me of not treating her right & the last straw came when we had her on her 4th birthday & she rung asking him what was I doing to her have I hurt her ( we both are with child I took care of her no different to how we love and treat our other beautiful grandbabys ) this was when I said enough we cut contact I told he