Regarding my previous post I have told DH where I stand with SD he claims he understands how I feel but his issue seems to be more with SD foster child 8 she took  the child on at the age of 3, between the age of 3 to 4 we saw her around 6 times but SD would always accuse me of not treating her right & the last straw came when we had her on her 4th birthday & she rung asking him what was I doing to her have I hurt her ( we both are with child I took care of her no different to how we love and treat our other beautiful grandbabys ) this was when I said enough we cut contact I told her she was toxic & not welcome in our home or family. SD stated she hated me & never wanted to have anything to do with me or our blended family but still expected DH to be involved but he refused, now 4 years later he's asking if we can try to just have a relationship with child he seems to be pushing that more than his daughter ( finds it hard to deal with her himself ). I have told him if he wants to see child & SD go there I don't want to get involved she will never accept me as family her words so fine I'm out but that means child to is this reasonable & how should I tackle this