So stepson now 24, after living with his partner of 3 years & having a baby now 1 and previously living with her mother has chosen to walk away from his family as she dosnt want him smoking pot or harder drugs. He has smoked pot for 10 years & she's always asked him to stop but he won't even losing his licence & now getting it back he went straight back to pot. He had a choice to make & he picked drugs over his child & now hubby said he can come here to live more for grandbaby to know she's safe when he has her.

So confused right now I should be loving disengagement with SD & MIL my choice ( 16 years of non acceptance to late now ) but I feel annoyed at the fact DH has some what picked up from where he left. Visiting some times, phone calls, texts etc. I feel like I've given them the ultimate prize me out there family picture just like they wanted. DH comes home telling me all there family in's & out's & I try not to have an input . DH always said he didn't want to live two lives them & us but that's exactly what's happening,. 

I'm so pissed right now, SD 29 can apologise to DH for all the things she's said & done to him over the 15 years but she hasn't bothered with me even though she told him she would try. She has done some despicable things like using my tooth brush to clean toilet ( I used it after unbeknown ) & so many other discughting vile things & the most evil words.

Help, I have a memorial ( spreading ash's ) of a dear family friend Saterday DH  SS DIL & myself will be travelling together SD will be also attending, after only starting talking/ texting  DH (all her ) for only just over a week of no contact SD is asking if after the event does " he " want to have dinner with her & other family members I have told DH I won't do this if he would like to I will stay home and let him have family time but he doesn't want that & we compromised we will have a drink with people there then go sit by ourselves & have dinner.