So confused right now I should be loving disengagement with SD & MIL my choice ( 16 years of non acceptance to late now ) but I feel annoyed at the fact DH has some what picked up from where he left. Visiting some times, phone calls, texts etc. I feel like I've given them the ultimate prize me out there family picture just like they wanted. DH comes home telling me all there family in's & out's & I try not to have an input . DH always said he didn't want to live two lives them & us but that's exactly what's happening,. 

Help, I have a memorial ( spreading ash's ) of a dear family friend Saterday DH  SS DIL & myself will be travelling together SD will be also attending, after only starting talking/ texting  DH (all her ) for only just over a week of no contact SD is asking if after the event does " he " want to have dinner with her & other family members I have told DH I won't do this if he would like to I will stay home and let him have family time but he doesn't want that & we compromised we will have a drink with people there then go sit by ourselves & have dinner.