Some background on my MIL... she's 63 years old and has only one child. My H (who is 28 years old) has NO brothers or sisters because my MIL was pregnant 5 times before my H and each one of them were either stillborn or didn't live long after they were born. My H only has one Bio kid because when he got with his XGF he was only 16 and she was 26 and she already had 2 children from two different previous relationships. So XGF and H only had SD9 together. When I first married my H I admit I had high hopes that my MIL and I would get along well and hopefully one day we could be close. She doesn't like me and I can honestly say that I really don't care much for her either although my H and her are close.

The BIG thing that made me actually start to dislike her is that recently I found out that I will be getting an inheritance and it's a rather large amount of money. So I told my H that we could help his mom out, buy her decent used vehicle and give her some money that she can put back and use for a rainy day. So H told his mom about it and she wanted us to go to her place and discuss a price a range... so we did. While we were there she got upset that we were only going to buy her a nice USED vehicle and that she wasn't getting a BRAND NEW one. It made me feel like she was ungrateful. THEN she wanted to know about how much money we were going to give her. We gave her a figure and she didn't seem happy with THAT either. So then a few weeks later she calls and asks my H if he can go run her trash out for her and he was gone for quite awhile. When he came back he tells me that his mom wanted to know if there's any way we could buy her a house. She said she had been talking to the women in her sewing group and they had told her about a cute little house and she wanted it because she wouldn't have to worry about stairs anymore. Once again she called us over to her apartment to have a conference. She wanted us to go look at the house with her and first I said we could. After thinking about it I didn't want to. So she decides that H and I should buy a house as an investment and allow her to rent it from us. I mean she didn't want to take no for an answer and she proceeded to go see the house on her own (she's mad at us by this time). We have been using her car and while she went to go see this house the alternator goes out and she calls H and over to her house and ORDERS H to get it fixed. She says we've been driving it too and that H should be responsible for repairs and upkeep. I'm just standing there and all of a sudden H goes OFF on her. They argue for a minute and then H tells me to come on while he walks out her door. She asks where he THINKS he's going to which he replies leaving and she tells him "NO. Get back here and talk to me about this," he replies F YOU and continues on. After I cook dinner I encourage H that he needs to talk to his mom so we did and they made up...

She continues to press the issue of the house. Please keep in mind that between H and I we have a total of 7 children. We need to buy a house of our own and are going to get a couple vehicles and of course we want some extras and to buy our children extras. H and I have been fighting off and on by this time about his mother and her expectations. He tells me that I need to tell her EXACTLY how I feel. SO we go over there. At first I try to be gentle and the entire time she has this sour look on her face with her lips all scrunched together and so I finally just tell her how I feel. I told her that I feel as though she has been ungrateful about everything I have offered. SHE tells ME that she feels as though SHE'S being taken for a ride. She has honestly helped us financially but not a brand new vehicle and a house worth. PLUS she wants some spending cash. I told her that I was about to the point where I would fix the car she has to a decent running order and give her $500.00 because that's about ALL I feel as though I would owe her. I have only known this woman for a little over a year and during that time she has stood up for my H's XGF, meanwhile she hasn't even ATTEMPTED to be even friends with me. I understand that she has been a good mother to my H and so he would LIKE to give her the things she wants but like I said... she and I don't even like one another. I see her as a selfish woman. H and I have argued so much about this that he doesn't even WANT to discuss it anymore but we are about to actually get the money and I'm worried...

Also H goes over to his mom's off and on to "take out her trash" and he'll be gone for quite awhile and when I ask him if he and his mom talked about anything he just says stuff like "the usual" and that's that. I kind of feel as though they talk bad about me because I'm not there. Not to mention she's been having SD9 over to her apartment a LOT lately which I thought was because SD9 WANTED to be there but after tonight I think it has more to do with MIL. I'm getting frustrated and feel like running away from time to time but I really love my H. PLEASE someone tell me if I'm overreacting. I don't know what to do anymore.