SD9 just got back from her BM's at 5am this morning and I got to be surprised by her mother walking right in the apartment and she started in chewing me out about how she's tired of DH accusing her of not providing anything for her DD (because she doesn't) but what has me truly irked is the nerve this woman had to walk into MY home uninvited at 5:00 in the morning!!!

Also SD9 came home crying and upset. When we asked her why she said because she misses her mommy which is perfectly understandable. I honestly feel for SD9 that her mother decided to move so far away and now cannot see her as much as she should. But then this morning SD9 was STILL quite upset. At first she wouldn't tell me why but I wouldn't give in so she finally did... her mother asked her over the holiday if she's happy living here to which she SWEARS she said she is (I'm not so sure she's telling the truth here though) and her mom asked her if she would like to live with her and SD9 told her yes. I asked SD9 why she wants to live with her mom and she told me that it's because she never gets to see her. Understandable. So then I explained to SD9 that if she went to live with her mother it would end up being the same way with her dad and then she would want to come back here and live. All I know is she's pretty shaken up over all of it. Not to mention her mother told her that she's not supposed to tell DH or I that she had this discussion with SD9.

I am SO angry!!! How can someone put there own child in a position like this? Why doesn't she just move back this way? It's not like her new hubby has children of his own and he doesn't even have family living in the same state. There are no roots there so WHY does she have to be like this??? It makes my heart ache...