Hand him a box of tissues and a bottle of lotion, give him a look, and walk away.

Thats nasty but expected with boys. Mine have their own bathroom when they come over so I dont worry. Im sure they do it everywhere tbh. I dont care as long as they shower which they can go days without doing and they are both 14 and 16 lol

I really dont care about their personal hygiene anymore because its personal. Each one of them has an electric toothbrush and the forget them here all the time. When my husband asked how do you brush your teeth when you forget your brushes here constantly. They said that they use their moms and their grandmas toothbrushes (gross)....My husband tried to clarify asking if they were using different heads and they said no all the same because their mom and them have the same germs anyway (gross)

Also argued me about what is the pt of cleaning/flushing the toilet when it is being used constantly

I tried to teach them to wash their laundry but they refused and threw a fit so i let them sit in stinky clothes or watch them use up all their clothes and have to sit naked until their dad comes around to washing for them

Do yourself a favor, if they arent using your bathrooms or your stuff, let them be as nasty as they want....who cares

Agree that this is gross but expected from boys. I guess if I'm the bio mom I might feel very differently.

My SS15 has a thing for porn now and of course he jerks off too. I think he did it in his room so I'm not sure if it's better lol (I might have accidentally walked into one before, thank god i didn't actually see anything- for both his and my own good) 

I know this is happening I just try not to think about it. 

I will have a problem with the waste of water though. 

So silver lining there.  

Seriously teenagers really suck.  LOL.

Sorry but I'd just do my best to ignore.  It is kinda normal for boys that age.

Most likely. 
 

so if he has gone from 1 a day to 3 a day, have his dad pay double or triple the cost of water bill. So say water bill for 3 people is approx $150, instead of his dad paying $100, have it be dad pays $120-130 to cover the additional costs.

my husband would get angry when he heard water running for 40 mins straight. Ss would be shaving and god knows what and shower water is running unnecessarily 

It's gross even when it's your own kid! The amount of conditioner that get's used in my house now... LMAO!

He is going to. Do it somewhere, somehow.  You can get DH to talk to him.  He must tell him is private, to do it in his bed room. With the door closed.  You knowing what a closed door mean. So no barging in. DH is the parent. He must tell him it's normal, but other people used the shower and don't want to be stepping in it. That nothing wrong with it. But it's personal, it's being an adult,   and must be done in his bed room with closed doors 

Normal or not, water costs money. If your husband is paying for it, fine. If YOU are paying for it, I would be telling him 1 shower a day, or telling DH he gets to pay for the extra water SS is using. 

Godspeed to you having him FT now....

I would say it point blank, "I understand you are masterbating in the shower as most boys do, but let's limit it to once in the morning or in the evening and no longer than 15 minutes so the bathroom isn't out of commission for the rest of us and our guest.  Not to mention, we can hear you..." then walk away.