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Step children who lie.... How do you deal with them being in your home?????????????????????????

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Submitted by Mrs. Why on Fri, 02/14/2014 - 5:20pm

So, my step children need attention from their mother soooooooo badly, they make up lies about me to get it. They KNOW, this is the one topic she will listen to them about. Recently, we have been dealing with some very BIG lies.

My stepdaughter is JUST like her mom..... When she is caught in a lie, she will stick to her story at all costs, trying to make everyone believe she is not lying, and they are all crazy.

My stepson recently lied about me, and now it's more than just dealing with the drama...... His sister jumped on the bandwagon (as she always does, even though she agreed with me during the issue) MY CHILD COULD BE IN TROUBLE because of their fucking lies.

They will be visiting their father tomorrow, I personally want to leave, and not have anything to do with them again, because of their lying. I have also ordered a home security system that will record EVERY MOMENT they are in our home.

I just don't have the ability to, ONE MORE TIME, act like everything is fine when they walk in MY DOOR! MY HOME, MY DAUGHTER'S HOUSE!!!!!

How do all of you deal with stepchildren like this? Do you leave? Do you stay? What do you say to them? Do you ignore them? Do you confront them?????? Any thoughts are appreciated.

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Submitted by Adviceneed1234 on Fri, 02/14/2014 - 5:46pm

I'm in the same boat. Wish I knew the answer. I'm at the point where I record all conversations to get help from my therapist and to show how mean and nasty my skid is.

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Submitted by Mrs. Why on Fri, 02/14/2014 - 6:43pm

I'm really sorry ur going through this too!!!!! Keep recording!!!! Do you keep the recordings in case you have to prove the child is lying later? This is what I am planning to do....

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Submitted by Mrs. Why on Fri, 02/14/2014 - 6:47pm

Yeah, I'm thinking about leaving hen they are here! His daughter has the BALLS to be upset that I won't trust her to watch her little sister!!!!! Has this girl lost her fucking mind???? Sure, you lie ALL the time, but here is MY child, go ahead and take care of her, I don't know if I should laugh or go fucking psycho. I don't really care to have a relationship with them any longer. Every time I do, it bites me in the ass. I hate to even leave my husband alone with them because of their lies, but hands down I will protect MY child over any of their feelings without having to think about it!

I understand they are children and messed up in the head, that sucks, but it's not my problem..... My responsibility is to my child.... Not to them

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Submitted by Mrs. Why on Fri, 02/14/2014 - 6:33pm

I have ordered the cameras FOUR of them, in the mean time I'm recording using my phone..... Yeah, for all these years I've been kind and patient..... Now that MY child is in danger, the gloves are off and I don't give a FUCK!

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Submitted by Mrs. Why on Fri, 02/14/2014 - 7:29pm

I was going to put cams up and not tell them about it! Do u suggest letting them know we have installed cameras, or just let them go on lying and then bust them out on it?

My husband knows the truth, and basically told his kids, his job is to have my back when they lie, he will not have their backs and he will protect me against them, and anyone who tries to start shit with me.

I've tried so hard to be good to them in the face of all of their bull shit,.... But honestly now that I have my own child, I cannot do that anymore. I won't do it, ur right their lies about bs is one thing but the lies keep getting bigger and more bold.... I won't ever ever ever endanger my child to protect their "feelings" again.

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Submitted by Mrs. Why on Fri, 02/14/2014 - 11:12pm

Lmao, just saw this! I was thinking if they were aware of the cameras and visible, it might avoid the lying all together, but, at least with ur way I get to have some fun with my $200

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Submitted by Mrs. Why on Fri, 02/14/2014 - 11:24pm

Lol, I hadn't thought about that either!!!! My husband was hesitant about putting them up, doesn't want to hurt kids "psyche" lol. Where did you get yours? I like the smoke detector idea, I can put them up without ANYONE knowing!

I also ordered a mini one, smaller than a lighter, audio video sound activated, uses a mini sd card. But I think I will send the other ones back and just put up ones like ur talking about! Is love to see what our dumb dog does lol.

So..... What was ur ss looking for? What did he want to steal and why?

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Submitted by Mrs. Why on Sat, 02/15/2014 - 8:51am

Wow!!!! At least u took steps to prevent an call it out! EVERYONE in my step children's lives let them lie and make excuses, they never have to actually be accountable for what they do. It blows my mind. I do find myself thinking, do kids just not have rules or boundaries any longer?

I would lose it if one of them still money from my purse, I keep my purse with me at all times!

What a mess uve been through, I'm really sorry =\ thank god things have lightened up a bit!

Thanks for sharing! It's really helped. I'm going to exchange cameras, till I can get everything set up I'm gonna stay as busy as possible. Stay out of the house or go in the bedroom!

Idk how u do it full time? Maybe it's less stressful without the psycho baby mamma in the pic?

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Submitted by Mrs. Why on Fri, 02/14/2014 - 7:34pm

And, I LOVE your advice...... Tell my husband to see them outside of MY home!!!!! I shouldn't leave MY home! They should, they are the liars I am the one who should be protecting myself and my child...... Wait a minute! This is my damn house, I absolutely can forbid them from coming here. I have already hired a lawyer to handle this for me, my character has been defamed for the last time, the lawyer represents ME, not my husband or his children, and I can get a court order to not allow them in my home..... All I have to do is give the dangerous history of my stepson and the incidences where my stepdaughter has been out of line with my daughter (such as fucking shaking her when I wasn't looking), tell the judge I am afraid for the safety of MY child and do not want them in my home!!!!! Thank you for this!!!!!

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Submitted by Mrs. Why on Fri, 02/14/2014 - 11:34pm

Smile

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Submitted by Mrs. Why on Fri, 02/14/2014 - 8:32pm

I have decided to do just that, hello..... That's it, hold my breath till they leave, I'm gonna make a point to go do a whole bunch of fun shit too lol. I already told my husband under no circumstances will I pick them up drop them off be alone woth them or do anything above and beyond like Christmas and bday planning (which I do ALL of) they act like what they have done is no big deal because neither of them understands the concept of consequences..... Cause they NEvER have any!

I don't want to punish them, I just don't want to be involved with them any longer

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Submitted by Mrs. Why on Fri, 02/14/2014 - 9:56pm

Nice, lmao, 101 days!!!! Hahaha!

Yeah, I'm not gonna b one of those stop moms who is like sure stay with us as long as u like..... Pssshhhh go to college, hmmmm .... That prolly won't happen either.... Go live at ur mammas, I don't want my child influenced by you!!!

It sucks, I wanted so much more for this situation!!!!! I'm so happy for you, congrats for making it.... I'm so scared of what kind of a wreck I could b by then. Worn out n tired, my youth wasted on this drama, the life sucked outta me!!! Glad to see ur in one piece!

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Submitted by Mrs. Why on Fri, 02/14/2014 - 11:19pm

Good for you!!!!!! I tell myself sometimes, just so many more years till 18. But I'm kidding myself, neither of them will be ready to leave for God knows how long.... But, at 18 I can say they HAVE to. Come visit or ur dad can go visit u.

I bet ur soooooooo thankful it's YOUR house!

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Fri, 02/14/2014 - 11:25pm

Idk. I think it depends on what they're lying about.

If they're telling lies that could really damage someone in your home, dh needs to visit them elsewhere for the time being.

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Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Sat, 02/15/2014 - 1:41pm

SS14 lies constantly. About everything. Even little stuff he doesn't need to lie about. We just don't leave him alone in the house, ever, unless we can't help it. You can't trust someone who lies constantly. I'm sure for every lie we catch him in, there are five we didn't catch.

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Submitted by Mrs. Why on Sat, 02/15/2014 - 7:16pm

That sucks!!!!! It's pretty much getting that way here too, I'm so over it all! I pray his lies never truly affect you and they stay just small bull shit. As we've learned lying step children can be very dangerous....