I'm so irritated! Primarily w/'psycho bio mom' but also my husband!
Long story short: she decided 'the kids were staying with [her] for [his] Thanksgiving visit;
For the first time in over 10 years: no response. We didn't fight!
(Please understand he has fought for YEARS for his/the children's rights, both in and out of court with temporary resoulutions but never any lasting closure/results)

We found out through an e-mail from SD (cheap-but what did we expect?) and knew that it was 'bait' to start a new fight.
(His ex is a 'prima donna'/princess drama queen...she lives for it, so when things get too smooth/quiet, she's gotta stir something up)
She anticipated a knock down drag out fight w/ my husband and/or being served an order to show cause for violating the visitation agreement (done it in the past, 'ate' the $350 to file-bio gets a 'slap on the wrist' -total waste of time; at least in our state and BM knows it)
So, we decided to take the advice of a family counselor and not engage, because the fighting really just hurts the children, and see what happened.
Also, she doesn't really want the kids, just uses them as 'leverage' we call her a 'kitten, baby and puppy person' she only likes 'em when they're young enough and under her total control, as soon as they grow into 'not always so sweet adolescents' it's not so 'fun' anymore. We've always known they'd want to be with us more when they became teenagers. I'm waiting for 'the fight' between teenage daughter and mother, when she kicks her out and 'disowns' her (BM's parents did that to her when she was about 16)

Today, she finally called my husband ("to explain" her reasons for with holding the visit). Well, blah blah blah (stupid, nonsense, basically) and he gets 'sucked in' to the 'back and forth'...a little.
There was progress for sure, she was totally taken aback that he was not going to fight with her anymore and said so.
She tried some different angles... (of course putting me down) and he wouldn't 'bite'...finally he said he had to go.
When she could tell she wasn't going to get what she wanted, she started to cry and said: "I just don't know who to listen to anymore, I don't know what's fair."
(BOO HOO, she's so dumb!)
He said, "the law for starters, if you're going against a judge's order or state statute, it's probably not fair; that's why the laws are in place."

You guys, I think it actually worked! I just can't help but wonder what other 'angle' she's going to try before she gives up (this is the woman who stripped 'buck naked' when we got engaged, and LITERALLY threw herself on my husband!)
I know she really craves the fighting and interaction with my husband, and she hung up 'unsatisfied'.

I guess, I was just irritated he participated at all...
I wish he would've just said: "I don't care what your reasons were for breaking the law and keeping the children, but I'm done playing the game, BUH-BYE!"