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My 11 year old thinks he should be treated like his 14 year old cousin

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}:) so my son looks up to my 14 year old nephew and while my nephew is a really good kid by that I mean gets good grades is very respectful to my sister. my 11 year old doesn't understand why he doesn't get to talk and act like his cousin. He says they are only 3 years apart that's not a big difference my sister and her son joke around with each other a lot bit I am so tired of having to explain why he can't do this and that I am close to losing it with my kid. is this normal for my 11 year old to act this way?

i am living in a real live nightmare

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:jawdrop: so my oldest ss 10 has a cell phone calls us every weekend he is at his moms house this weekend he called exactly 48 times crying running around his moms backyard hiding from her because he says she is crazy she is flipping outbreaking things in the house yelling and screaming and my ss starts begging us to come and pick them up......then she starts blowing up my dhs phone saying that we are telling the boys to come home that we should stop trying to take them from her and that we are going to court and she is getting full custody then calls my dh all calm and says she is sorry th

Even though I love my SKs is it wrong that I feel upset and used sometimes ???

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:O Ok keep in mind that I love my SKs both of them. We have had a major connection from the moment I've been in their lives. But lately its been hitting home that I am nothing more than a women that takes care of them. When I met my boyfriend, I knew that he had kids. But apart of me feels like saying RUNNN get out while you can simply because I never thought about their graduation, their weddings, the birth of Their children, My oldest SSs says to if I have a daughter when I grow up can I name her after you?....I got teary eyed and said you can name your daughter anything you want.

where does it end!!!

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}:) So my boyfriend and I decided to buy our oldest my SS a phone so that when he goes to his BM house he can call us whenever he wants because there are times she deny's him and says he cant call us. So of course what I thought would happen, happened. My oldest called us crying, saying that BM boyfriends oldest daughter who is 14 got mad at him and started punching him in the face. He was freaked out and didnt know what to do. I told him to go and tell his mom. He said he would and then I told him to call us back. He called back later on that evening.

lies lies and more lies

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I no that I have to just put up with what goes on when it comes to my SKs but BM just really makes me mad. While court was going on she wanted this and she wanted that. Then comes to us and says OK I am done with court lets just figure things out on our own. I am ready, So last year we had the kids for easter and this year would be her turn we agreed that since she had the kids last year for certain holidays that we would just switch for this year.

I agree with this so much

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copy this link into your browser for those that are step parents. I agree and wish it were that simple. We have full custody for 9 whole months. How am I not playing the mother role for my Sks their Bio mom gave them up to be with her boyfriend and moved to far away. She see's them every other weekend and has them 3 months out of the summer. She is good all that I try to instill in them that is good she tares down in 3 months when the boys are at home with us, we teach them to get a long, to love each other and that we are a family that loves each other.

This is so hard for me

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I know that I still have almost 3 more months with my SKs but they are going to be gone the entire summer and I am going to miss them like crazy..They can make my life crazy, busy and sometimes hectic but even when they are gone on the weekends I still miss them.

how to get awarded attorney fees in family court and can we should we file for full custody!!! or???

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I paid for my boyfriends attorney when his BM took him to court over some bogus drug addiction story she gave the courts. Can he get awarded attorney fees in family court in california. The custody order went from 4/3 3/4 to 50/50 then to we have full custody during the school year and she has the kids during the summer so basically we have 9 months she has 2 months a 1 week during the summer, I've had to make my oldest son a doctors appointment because he now has bad anxiety thinking that summer will be here in 3 months are at least that is when school is out.

BM and boyfriend have turned me into their personal F***ing assistant....UUGGGHHH

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because boyfriend is so busy I've taken on doing certain things to help take care of my SS. Now let me explain this. My SK are amazing they always call me mom almost have from the very beginning we have a GREAT RELATIONSHIP. which BM SERIOUSLY hates, But today she text and as when the boys have appointments that we need to let her no. Now here is the problem we have FULL CUSTODY during the school year she sees them every other weekend and they hate that. They always ask if they could live with us full time and we tell them it cant happen. BM would never go for that.

should I leave it alone

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so once again because BM says she is done with going to court and has agreed to just give the kids to us during the school year. My boyfriend caves again after I spend all of that money on the dam lawyer. I of course am upset he didnt want to see this through because the judge was on his side but what makes me upset the most is the fact that we have the boys technically 9 months out of the year BM has them 3 months out of the year during the summer. I read the final paper work on custody and it says she can claim one of the kids.

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