Dearest BM....
I have come up with a list. It is a list of 10 words that I feel best describes you. I could have come up with so many more but i thought 10 was a good number. Included with these words is a definition, so to speak. My definition...or my reason for choosing that specific word. So here goes...
10) Easy: although thats not really the word I am looking for. How do you describe a person who sleeps with anything that has to legs and a heartbeat? Gender? Even that doesn't matter. And the worst part about it is the fact that your kids knew about your sexual preference and how many people u had sex with before they were teenagers. What parent in their right mind feels the need to share that with their children. Sadly, your own daughter at 11 had her own special name for you.
9) Vomit-inducing: yep its 2 words but for now, I'm making it one. You seriously make people want to vomit. What mother, in her right mind hooks up with a pedophile and then whines and complains to everyone about how her XH needs to stay out of her business. The last time I checked, the well being of his kids, is his business.
Worthless: In 6 years the only contribution you have made financially to these kids would be $20 for YSD's girl scout trip and $100 to YSD's church trip. You are more then $15,000 behind on child support. If you were a man you would have your license revoked or maybe even be doing time. We even have to pay for certain things when its your weekend because you are just that worthless. In 2009, you saw those girls maybe a dozen times..and thats for the whole year!!
7) Fake: the only time those girls matter to you is when you need them to impress somebody. If you find some guy who loves kids, then you want those girls all the time and call them practically everyday. But if you hook up with a man who doesn't care then those girls only hear from you every 2 weeks. You can't find 5 minutes every few days to just call and see how they are doing.
6) Vendictive: when those girls would forget to call you on your birthday you would call and make them cry. You would guilt trip those girls so bad. It got so bad that I had to take the phone from OSD because you wouldn't lay off. Sadly though it was ok when you didn't remember something important to them. They needed to deal with it because you had other things to do.
5) Friend: when you did bother with them, you had to be their friend. But when it came time to put on your grown up panties you would call me because when you did decide to be their mother, they wouldn't listen. You thought and still think that by being their friend and letting them do what they want that they will like you more. NO, they just like going to your house more. What kid doesn't want to do whatever they want. You sleep most of the time they are there so not even you know what they are doing.
4) Selfish: and thats putting it mildly. For the first year that i was here, you were with a different man everyone of your scheduled visits. Not once taking the feelings or well being of those girls into consideration. Those girls were always staying at some new strange man's house. Lucky for you, I couldn't do anything about it cause had it been me, you wouldn't have seen those girls. 90% of the time, YOU didn't know these men and yet you expected your girls to stay there the weekend.
3) Cruel: When things weren't going your way, you would come up with some illness that you supposedly had. Not only did you lie about it but so many times you had those girls terrified that something was seriously wrong with you. I have never in my life met someone who has had so much wrong with them and they aren't dead. You told everyone one time that you had cancer all so you could get free stuff.
2) Proud: yep mommy is so proud. OSD at 16 decided to play house and get knocked up. Not only that but at 15 she slept with some nasty guy and got an STD. And just like mommy both girls are liars. I don't think YSD knows what it means to tell the truth and OSD lies and thinks that daddy is dumb enough to believe her..and sadly most of the time he is. But when she got pregnant she told daddy that he was her first and that the condom must have broke. Umm NOPE. She has slept with multiple guys, contracting an STD from one. And the whole condom thing well she convinced her bf that they shouldn't use a condom because it felt so much better without when in actuality her plot was to get pregnant and trap him.
1) Delusional: one of my favorites. You live in this world where everybodys man wants you. People all love and adore you. And if you wanted my husband back, you'd have him. Now the truth. No real man wants you. The only men who want you are men looking for an easy lay. People really don't like you and the saddest part is they can TELL you that and you still convince yourself that they do. And as for MY husband...well first off you are an EX for a reason. my husband went from a woman who constantly screwed around on him, lived like a pig, constantly belittled him, couldn't take care of her own kids cause she was always dying of something or too lazy to get her ass up off the couch..to ME. Nope I am not perfect but I know what it means to be a mother and wife. my house is always cleaned, my bills are always paid on time, I take care of my own kids, I cook real meals...hell I cook and that alone is one up on you. I would never cheat on him because I love him and unlike you I know what love is and I not only take care of my kids but his also. I respect my husband as a man not as a means of support so that I can be lazy and worthless. And the funny part is, you do want my husband back but not because you still love him, cause you never did but because you are jealous of what I have. You were with him for 13 years and NEVER had half the stuff I do. Its sad that you will never know what love is. You think your kids love you so much more then me, and really I don't care but your kids don't love you the way you think they do, they love what you do for them...which really isn't much but to a kid, being able to do what they want, is alot
maybe one day you will wake up and realize the damage you have done. You think your girls think so highly of you and they really don't. I have heard it all. YSD, the one you think doesn't know what you really are, really does. She just won't say anything to you like OSD does because she doesn't want you treating her the way you do OSD. OSD doesn't care what you think and thats why she has no problem telling you what you think of her. And just so you know, posting how much you love and miss OSD on facebook isn't going to fix the shit you have done. Your words don't mean much to them anymore especially when your actions have caused them so much pain!!
So you can blame me all you want for your life sucking but you did it all to yourself!!
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I hope this made you feel a
I hope this made you feel a bit better. I also wrote a blog to my skids bm earlier and It made me feel better, just wish I have the guts to show this to her.
And I love the way you put this in words. "your kids don't love you the way you think they do, they love what you do for them..."
I have tried for 6 years to
I have tried for 6 years to fix the damage she did and continues to do. But I give up, its not worth the stress and BS. I have done everything for those girls for the past 6 years and yet they run me to the ground constantly. SD13 acts like her mommy is just so perfect and of course she is. Mommy doesn't make her mind, doesn't make her do anything and lets her do whatever she wants. SD13 and SD17 talk to BM like she is some piece of trash they picked up off the street and they aren't joking and yet she just thinks its funny. I guess you get what you give, but in my case thats not true. I get the shit end of the stick no matter what. Nothing I have done these past 6 years even matters, not even to the DH. I am only seen for the bad I do. So I quit!! He can deal with his own children beings that he helped make them the oh so lovely precious girls they are today...lying, manipulating, self centered brats!! Something to be proud of!!