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SS is at the Throwing Stage...AHH!

mommy_in_training88's picture

So my SS's last visit was a couple days ago. He was actually really great; wanted to be around me, wanted to cuddle, ate all of his dinner for a change, listened to me, etc. Practically a perfect 2 days!

I spoke too soon...

Apparently, he is in the throwing stage of a 3 yr old. I had no idea how bad it had gotten til he picked up my cat and threw him across the room and took DVD's and threw those as well. I have no idea how to tame it.

Once again, I know his BM and the BM's mother who do have him a majority of the time don't care about anything he does (he's basically a brat but doesn't know it). I can already tell you he does it at there home and they don't care. That certainly won't fly with me!! (no pun intended)

Any advice on how to let my SS understand throwing can be done OUTSIDE and throwing things that are meant to be thrown??

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SusiQ's picture

My DS is almost 4 and yep - he's throwing everything. Almost taking out DD who just turned 1 on numerous occasions. No matter how many times I've told him to stop, he doesn't. I finally resorted to time outs on the stairs - which he totally hates. Every time and it has to be every time - it's 2 mins on the stairs.

It seems to be working - the throwing has calmed down over the past 2 weeks.

Bojangles's picture

My 2 and half year old has been throwing. There seems to be a lull at the moment but my BD4 has been in tears several times when caught by one of his missiles. We're also doing time outs on the stairs every time it happens, with clear reiterations that throwing hurts people and breaks things. I would go for a firm no throwing rule to start with and not make an exception for outside play. It takes time for them to take the message on board, they think it's fun so they will keep doing it until they understand that it always leads to the stairs, which is not fun. Your SS is clearly capable of being loving and well behaved so you just have to keep at it. Good luck!

Lauren1438's picture

we did a firm no throwing with FDH's girls and we did time outs at first but that didn't work at ALL so we started to take away one toy for every time something was thrown. Thank worked much better. We made a shelf high enough they could reach but could clearly see all of there favorite toys, they would get them back the next day.

oneoffour's picture

When he throws something, remove it.
What also worked with my kids was to slap my hands right in their faces and say "No! No throwing inside!". Scares the crap out of them, they are not hit and they learn very quickly not to throw stuff or they lose it for a couple of days and get the shock of their lives.
Eventually my kids leanrt that me clapping my hands meant stop what you are doing RIGHT NOW!