SSstb18 told SO then the 3 of us talked about the recent developments!! 

BM and her husband moving states away (average 8 hour drive) 

NOW! We always thought they would move north 3-5 hour drive (she brought this up to skids years ago) but not south.

We only have a few details so here they are:

•BM has only told SS19. She told him NOT to tell SD15 or SSstb18 but he did. **shoulder shrugs**

I am no stranger to step life prior to SO. My parents divorced when I was 8 so I was exposed. To different types of situations growing up.

My step mother passed away Tuesday.. years of drug abuse and poor health finally took its toll. She has been fairly sick for quite some time now.. My father and her had been together for 21 years but I never had to live with them.  My father and her both struggled for years with substance abuse issues etc etc. My step sister, step brother and my youngest brother had to deal with more then myself and my middle brother.

It doesn't happen often and even when I'm not home it annoys me. 

BM took SD to get her nails done today for school starting. We are up to 6 hours for the year she's spent with BM! Nails and home ..per her norm. Didn't ask to get her anything for school! Yahoo!! Haha.

Anways....

Even when you've been in the family longer are you still 2nd?? Just got an invitation to SOs nephews engagement party and it was address to... SOs first and last name & family.

Ive clearly been with SO longer then his nephew and fiancé (both 25) have been together and it just feels like they couldn't make the effort to put both of our names... or because we aren't married my name isn't important.. I don't know.. might just being sensitive. Stuff like this annoys me though. It feels almost 2nd