Stories.
I've always been curious on the stories BM tells people about SO and myself. There was to be a ton a tall tales that make us look like the big bad guys.
BMs mom has been "putting effort" in to SD15 recently. BMs parents took her out for her birthday in April and SD went over to their house Sunday for a few hours.
Backstory quick.. BM and her mom are always on/off with each other... always have drama and the dad is just a bystander. BMs mom is manipulative, medicated up etc. Has done some really screwed up stuff to say the least.. SO says though she was always there for her kids... I don't know.. she stole money out of her sons account while he was deployed so you guys make that judgement.
Anyways... they have done nothing with skids for the almost 7 years I've been with SO. So this is new..they send Xmas and birthday cards. Mind you they live about 8 minutes from us.
SD didn't say anything to me about her few hours with BMs parents but the only thing she said to SO was the mom asked SD if BM ever asks her to go camping with BM and her her husband. SD said no. BMs mom said would you ever want to go? SD said probably not...
So that had me thinking of the lies she probably even tells her parents about why she doesn't do shit with her kids. BM and her husband have an RV.. we never know what they are doing but I'm pretty sure they go up north every weekend. They were just there for a month camping.
Sounds like BMs mom was fishing for info... I don't trust her at all.. I just hope SD doesn't fall for any antics with BM and her mom. I don't think she will though.
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I feel you on this, and you
I feel you on this, and you can't help but feel paranoid about it all.
ET Sr. shared a post on social media asking about 3-4 bedroom housing recommendations in ET-ville. Mind you, ET Sr. doesn't have a pot to piss in and can't live on her own so no need for a bigger house ESPECIALLY down where ET is living. Plus, ET is living in her house so why does she need something different down there?
According to OSS, ET Sr. is looking for a place to live with ET that also has enough rooms for OSS (who is 20, in college, and launching on his own fully by next summer) and YSK (who visits EOWE at best and has plans to stop all visitation at 18 which is about 1.5 years from now). YSK's head nearly blew off their shoulders at the thought of having to stay with both ET and ET Sr. EOWE. Makes me wonder what plotting the two she-devils are doing, but can't do a whole lot other than sit back and watch carefully.
ET Sr. also made another post about YSK getting COVID and "needing prayers" for their recovery. Mind you, she posted this *several days* after YSK was diagnosed, and their worst symptom was a cough. They didn't even take meds after the first day! Then nearly two weeks later she is posting all kinds of thanks and prayers worked, etc. The kid was already back in school by the time she stopped clutching her pearls for attention! Let's keep in mind, too, that both ET and ET Sr. thought COVID was a joke and neither cared about masking or vaxxing until they had to do it. But one of the kids gets sick and now she's begging for prayers.
Gag me with a spoon.
Ugh. The Facebook posts **
Ugh. The Facebook posts ***mega eye roll*** BM told SD last year that her mom won a settlement from her job (SO said BMs mom always got fired from her jobs) because someone put razors in her desk.... I laughed at that one.
BM grew up with money.. then they made very poor decisions and lost everything. SO put 20k in to a deli that BMs parents were going to run with another couple... they didn't last a few months because the parents burned their bridges... and SO lost all the money he put it and the labor.
BMs parents were living with SO and BM when they got divorced.. SO was nice enough to actually let them stay a few months after BM left.. he needed help with the kids because BM was gone..
SO has told me so many stories of BMs mom that are just insane... she demanded SO buy new garbage cans once.. this was after BM left... that was SOs last straw and he finally kicked them out haha.
SD knows the mom isn't right so I think she won't get sucked in but you never know.
SD did tell SO too that BMs mom was going to try and get them to see their cousins which they haven't ever seen.. so that makes sense. From what SO and I gather BMs brothers ran from their parents .. SO is still friends with a lot of BMs family on Facebook and he never sees BM or her parents in anything .. wonder why haha. Her brothers are younger so they were in their early 20s when SO and BM divorced.. so now they have families and what not..
I shouldn't care about what they say but I hate when people try to taint my character and who I am as a person with lies... and that's all they do..
I get it. ET has always
I get it. ET has always shipped that DH was a deadbeat and I was overstepping/trying to take her place. Apparently being responsible and supportive was majority threatening. The thing is, ET nor ET Sr. seem to realize that the kids tolerate them (heck, the kids could also just tolerate us but we'd accept that). ET blows a gasket anytime YSK isn't being overly cheerful or shows any amount of sarcasm (which I think might be their love language lol). I'm sure ET has spun it to friends and family that DH is keeping YSK from her or is convincing them not to come around. Reality is that ET's behavior drives the kids away, and YSK just doesn't want to say anything while she still has some legal power over them.
It's fine, though. They can spout all they want. I'm to the point where I'll happily inform folks of the truth of the matter if it comes to that. I'm very done with trying to save ET's face to both the public and her kids.
That's what happened with SD
That's what happened with SD and SS17... her lifestyle is nothing like them.. They can't relate to her basically in anyway. SS19 has the same brain as her so he thinks she's "cool" and they think alike.
I know what they say doesn't matter but sometimes I let it get to me.
So often I've wished to be a
So often I've wished to be a fly on the wall. SD15 has let slip things about BM and her family on occasion but nothing I'd call a complete story. I'm actually most interested in what she tells her husband about DH, they have never really interacted and maybe shook hands once. The exchange was friendly at some SD event and DH was more curious than anything. BM made a weird face and stepped back like she wanted them to fight.
I wonder what she tells people about me. She acts like I don't exist to my face but I know a lot more about her than she knows about me.
Yes!! I too wish I could be
Yes!! I too wish I could be fly on the wall... just to hear the lies!!
DH and I were talking about
DH and I were talking about this kind of thing last night. It's a Navy thing but he was sponsoring a guy who had just got married. I really liked the wife- blended family and she was pregnant. We quickly realized how toxic she was and I was happy to see they split finally the other day.
She told me how her son's dad had abused and then abandoned them- and I asked DH last night if he thought any of that even really happened or if he just got tired of fighting to see his kids, especially after she moved. He said that he wouldn't doubt it anymore. She is off the rails.
DH then said that he was sure everyone in SS's town thought he abused BM- which is a joke because DH has never even gotten loud and looked at me. There is no intimidation or fear in my marriage and I know he would never ever hit a woman. But yeah, I am sure BM has weaved a perfectly crafted story so that she is a victim... Otherwise, someone might ask why SS never see's his dad and we can't have that come out!
In my mid 20s a friend of a
In my mid 20s a friend of a friend started dating this girl and we all really liked her. We hung out a lot as group and we had a "girls night" on night and she was saying basically she was a victim of abuse etc etc. My friend got the gf a job and everything.
Well.. we were all wrong.. she turned out to be a lunatic. My friends friend basically stopped hanging out with all his friends, cut ties with a lot of people. Very sad stuff. He married her and has a child with her so he's stuck forever with the crazy..
So I know this story myself...
Most HCGUBMs
Have overdrawn on their victim card, however, no one in the system seems to mind. Their groupies (skids, family, community, courts) go right along with the narrative.
And people still continue to
And people still continue to fall for the BS..