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Sad, lonely weekend

Well. What a nasty weekend.

My philosophy on stepkid discipline is this: I say NOTHING unless bad behavior is directly affecting me or my personal belongings. This means that 98% of the time I stay quiet and let DH yell, hound, scold, whatever. DH has a lot of things that bug him, so he spends a lot of time doing the aforementioned (he is way more easily annoyed than I am).

StepDog

All the pup postings made me think of this: does anyone else have a step-dog? We have a dog that goes back and forth between our homes, with no real fixed schedule. I feel bad when we have the dog because we both work long, full days (and BM doesn't work) so it seems unfair to the dog. But, BM insists that we take the dog, usually at random and without notice.

Anyone dealing with this?

hooded bandit

Last night my dh and i took ss7 and sd5 out to dinner with my dh's uncle + family. the kids don't know the uncle at all because he lives far away. during dinner, ss7 ignored questions directed at him and zipped his sweatshirt hood up over his head so that he could see but not speak. he ate chips, then didn't touch his dinner (which he picked off the menu). when asked why he wasn't eating, he replied that he didn't "have a mouth" (presumably because his sweatshirt was zipped over it. instead of speaking, from time to time he made an annoying buzzing noise.

is it normal...

for a seven year old to need a parent's help in wiping his butt after he poops?

(honestly i can't believe some of the things i need to ask from time to time).

public service note to my DH's ex:

puke green sweatpants do not look good on anyone. but, they look especially bad on you.
best wishes,
mich811

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complaints

DH tells me that I sound superficial when I complain to him about skids bad behavior or scheduling issues. HE has an absolute right to complain, but I can't say anything. So frustrating. I'm supposed to act like a "real" mom when we have them, but I can't say a word to him about the downside.

How are we supposed to live up to these ridiculous standards?

baseball practice

DH agreed that he'd be "assistant" coach instead of "head" coach for SS7's baseball team this spring.

For the last two seasons, he was "head" coach, and this meant that our weekends without the kids remained subject to SS's baseball schedule. It wouldn't be a big deal, BUT DH and I leave the city on weekends. During baseball, if DH is head coach we get trapped by the baseball schedule -- our weekend place is too far away to commute, so we have to stay in the city until baseball practice is over.

negativity

Stepson 7 is incredibly negative. He corrects everyone (but he's almost always wrong) and he is just generally aggressive and difficult to be around. He shouts "NO" in response to everything anyone says, and clearly thinks it is funny. He also lunges and attacks under the guise of "play", but sometimes it really hurts me!

wedding hair

DH and I got married at City Hall a while back, and we've planned a wedding party to celebrate in May. SD5 is over the moon excited about being a flower girl, and has been growing her hair long for months in anticipation. BM cut her hair really, really short last week. SD was crying about it this weekend and kept asking me if it will be long again in time for the wedding (it won't, but I kept telling her it will be perfect and beautiful).

adult conversations

when dh and i are talking (about anything) sd5 or ss7 immediately gloms on to the conversation, interrupting, asking detailed questions about what/who we are discussing and often derailing it. dh provides them with detailed explanations about what we are discussing, why, etc. these conversations are usually incredibly boring and practical, along the lines of this:

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