complaints
DH tells me that I sound superficial when I complain to him about skids bad behavior or scheduling issues. HE has an absolute right to complain, but I can't say anything. So frustrating. I'm supposed to act like a "real" mom when we have them, but I can't say a word to him about the downside.
How are we supposed to live up to these ridiculous standards?
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i guess it gets easier when
i guess it gets easier when us SMs realize skids are perfect and we are the problem!!
hahahahahahahaha
I have no advice, but SO
I have no advice, but SO says I ALWAYS point out the negative. One of the ladies on here gave me the advice to "Bridle thy tounge" and quit b*tching about everything, and one day, he will (hopefully) come to see the things his daughter does and correct her on them
****"She had his past. I have his future." The Lovely Belleboudeuse****
the funny thing is, i rarely
the funny thing is, i rarely say anything (i think LOTS of things) unless something really, really out there happens (for example, SS7 pushing me and telling me to "move" last week). and, when things like that happen, i try to talk to DH in a "how should i handle these things?" kind of way. anything i say
really, being a stepmother is the most frustrating job in the world. it makes my "day" job seem like naptime.
A trick that worked for a
A trick that worked for a small moment in time... Say something good about skid and wrap it around your complaint like that thin yummy coating on m&m's.
Example: H, I really LOVE the picture that SD drew! It's so colorful and creative and it's just completely awesome even though while she was drawing it, the colors ended up bleeding through the page onto my antique desk that's now ruined even though we've told her to stay away from the desk time and time again...but *sigh lightly* having a priceless heirloom ruined for the sake of SD's art is a small sacrifice bc I just LOVE this drawing!"
This MUST be said with the most straight face and sincere eyes you can manage!! It only works a few times so use it WISELY.
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We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are. ~Anaïs Nin
BBB- That wouldn't work for
BBB- That wouldn't work for me... I'm so scarcastic... He would know I was pissed.
****"She had his past. I have his future." The Lovely Belleboudeuse****
so funny! love this
so funny! love this approach.
"DH, SS is getting SO strong. I noticed that when he pushed me over yesterday, he really knocked the wind out of me. I'm amazed at what a big, tough boy he is becoming."
Hell yes!!! I used to get
Hell yes!!! I used to get mad at DH because the scheduling issues were affecting my life. I wanted to know when they were coming over, because it affected my time. He is in my life, and when they are in my house, it affects me. SO we now have rules. They are not coming over unless I am informed first. If I object, then the answer is that they can't come over.
ohhh so jealous... my skid
ohhh so jealous... my skid only live a few streets over! and they have there nights where they come over and its the same every week.. but when im trying to organise something romantic i can bloody hear them on the scooters..
and i've asked my DH is they can just ask or ring before they just come over for a visit! but he thinks it should be there home as well and thinks is harsh to ask them to ring first before they come over... im getting super annoyed over the issue so something will change soon!
poor belle ---- skid just
poor belle ---- skid just stops over with no heads up??? that sucks... always keep the doors locked so skid has to at least ring or knock...