the bm for an explanation? I would have your husband call and record the fone call... just for documentation. Try not to seem to accusing, just say this is what the kids said while they were here. Let her tell her side if it sounds completely off you have the documentation. I can't imagine anyone not having their kids shower, but I have been without hot water before, but I also have a stove and warm water up for the kids. Anyway sometimes I believe kids lose track of time when they are suffled back and forth. My older kids used to tell their dad they didn't eat at my house or vice versa, until their step mom and i talked... they had been eating 2 suppers a night!!! They weren't being malicious they are just kids. I think you will be able to tell by the moms reaction don't you? Even if they didn't shower for a week i bet that doesn't happen again, and if it does you have it documented.

If the kids are at their grandparents' house 2-3 days a week surely they had to have bathed there at the very least! The grandparents wouldn't be as neglectful as their daughter, would they? Your husband should have called and made an appt with your SS pediatrician and have him/her assess and treat the bowel prob. That way it is documented, your SS would subsequently reveal your other concerns, and don't come off like the bad guy. Keep this in mind for the next time or simply have your husband make an appt with a counselor. Again, let your SS reveal the info to a professional without your apparent involvement and avoid any backlash. Trust me on this one. Been there.

Sorry to say this but CPS probably won't do much unless there is physical evidence that the children are being "harmed". We are in a similar situation where the BM neglects my SS almost daily. We have been documenting everything that goes on at BM's house and are trying to build a case against her but so far, the few times we had to call the police, they dismissed the case as not enough evidence. Supposedly CPS was given the reports but we were never contacted, which means that our case was not high on the priority list. For example, when SS appeared on our doorstep crying his eyes out and having an anxiety attack because BM's new husband pushed SS into a wall. We called the police and they basically made a report of the incident but indicated that there was no evidence of physical harm. It is a very sad situation for these kids but all we can do is wait until the BMs do something harmful that exhibit physical harm, then just maybe CPS will do something to help a child. Basically, the BM would need to practically kill their child before CPS takes a child away from a BM.