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COURT AGAIN!!!!

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Submitted by mcneita on Sun, 10/18/2009 - 9:20pm

My husband has to go court on 12/3/2009 to fight for custody of his little girl. Her mother pasted away when she was two, he shareshe; custody with her aunt. When we got married and had our child the aunt started with so much drama. My husband has a court hearing on 12/3/09 because the aunt wants full custody. I was the bread winner of our family,but I lost my job in April. The lawyer wants 4400 to take the case but we cant afford it. Our home was 8000.00 behind and we had hell finding the money to stay in our home.My husband works third shift and my step childs has a lot of issues that requires her to attend the doctor every month. The aunt complains that my husband misses her doctor appointments and that I abuse her(not true). Im hard on all my kids so they will grow up to become someone.The aunt pets my step child and teaches he lies. My stepdaughter is six and has been kicked out of four schools. She goes to house to house and they spoiled her due to the fact that her mother has pasted away.We cant afford a lawayer and my husband makes to much for a public defender.The aunt just wants money, she was getting my stepdaughter's check and we stopped her beacuse she wouldn't help us with daycare. This is a mess and honestly Im sick of it.... She takes my husband to court every two years.. MONEY MONEY MONEY!!!!!If my husband lose he wants to give all his rights up because he refuse to pay the aunt child support. What should we do!!!!!! Help please...
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buttercookie's picture

Submitted by buttercookie on Sun, 10/18/2009 - 9:42pm

In Illinois he if he signs his rights away he is still responsible for child support. The only way he wouldn't be is if the child was adopted by the aunt. Don't know what the law is by you but I'd shop around for a cheaper attorney and try not to make quick emotional decisions because it'll end up costing you in the long run.

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Sun, 10/18/2009 - 11:47pm

I agree with buttercookie and think you need to look up your state's child support (CS) laws and see if DH's signing his rights over means he can stop paying CS. However, I don't think his signing over his rights is in the best interest of this child. I know she's seeing a doctor once a month now but I think she needs more intense therapy. I'm no professional but I can certainly understand why this poor kid has so many issues. Maybe the aunt fears you're out to replace her sister as SD's (stepdaughter's) mom. I think that SD should be in intense therapy, and I think her therapist should see the three of you (you, DH and the aunt) together as well so you can all discuss your feelings on this situation.

I just read your biography and I really think you should leave DH. Why force your child to grow up around people who treat him like cr*p? I also think that your stepson (SS) needs counseling. It sounds like he's got a lot of issues as well.

If DH were to die I'd get primary physical and legal custody of the skids and BM's folks would still get them every other weekend (EOW). BM is supposed to get them EOW but she pawns them off on her parents. Which is actually good, because her parents take better care of the kids than she does!