Well isn't this just a lovely start to our Monday morning? Let me back up to two weeks ago. Change SS (now 4 1/2 years old) to go back to bio mom by putting him back in bio mom's clothes on Wednesday (he goes to bio mom on Wednesday and back to us on Saturday). No bruises. Get a text Thursday evening from bio dad (my husband) that the SS is telling bio mom that dad punched his thigh- mom sent a pic and dad forwarded it to me that shows a bruise on his thigh- I took one look at the pic and said it was a bite mark-. Child has a behavioralist- at some point in time ss told behavioralist that bio dad punched him and that is how he got the bruise. Behavioralist calls CYS at some point- Saturday approx 2 hours before pickup, CYS calls DH. DH calls me says be careful at custody exchange someone called CYS. I go and pick up SS from bio mom's bf- no issues- did ask him what was up and if he really wanted to come to our house- he says what do you mean? I asked- answer me yes or no- did your daddy hit you- ss starts crying-no daddy didn't hit me I lied. Asked what happened- he says he doesn't know.

SS has a fairly good week with us- Tuesday evening- riding in daddy's truck- ss goes daddy- BIO mom's name (He calls her by her first and last name for some reason!_WEIRD!)- told me to lie- I really got bit by the dog. Wednesday comes and CYS comes to our house and wants to hear our side of the story right before custody exchange. Advised CYS that he has no bruises Wed. Thurs- we get text with pic- Sat after exchange we took our own pics too (still looked like a bite)- Show CYS all the pics- CYS agrees it is a bite mark. At some point while we had SS- Bio mom informed DH that it was not her that called CYS- SURPRISE- bc she is normally the caller- come to find out it was the behavioralis- bio mom also states she was being kicked out of living in the basement of bf's parents house because their dog that she rescued attacked the upstairs dog that belongs to bf's parents even though she got rid of the dog. (Now I know the dog is vicious.)

Mom takes custody Wednesday with no incident. Saturday I did the exchange with bio mom's bf and he says "good luck- you're in for a hell of a week- It's been nothing but attitude, crying fits, breaking toys, being bad, lying, swearing, and self-injury (hits head with closed fists and bangs head off floor) I say great- and the direct my attention to ss. I talk to SS in front of bio mom's bf and ask what is going on- he says nothing just mad- ask what he's mad about- don't wanna talk about it- ss has head down speaking softly and getting frustrated. Get SS in my car- asks if he can go to parade that is going on at the time- told him no because he hadn't been good for bio mom- go for 5 mins down road and his mood completely 180's asks to listening to music- asking what we are going to do - laughing- telling jokes- etc. etc. (like normal and how it usually is after exchange)Ask him when we are almost home if he wants to talk about his time with bio mom and her bf he says nope- that he had an okay week and that was that.

Saturday evening bio dad works til 7a on Sunday morning. We go to bed with no issues- and wake up Sunday morning around 8am- Bio dad had extra paperwork and ends up getting home around 10am- so him and I got extra cartoon time - everyone gets cleaned up and we have a pretty good Sunday morning and afternoon- SS gets a little attitude early in the evening- but nothing out of the normal- right before bed on Sunday evening- we read bed time stories and talked about how good of a day we were going to have tomorrow- (bed time story was about sharing- something ss struggles to do at daycare and with bio mom's daughter now 2 years old- who is supposedly bio mom's bf's daughter but has bio mom's last name- WEIRD- we end up reading the story twice- daddy read first and I asked ss to pick out what book he wanted me to read and he wanted the sharing book again-)give him lots of hugs and kisses and we all go to bed.

So now it's Monday morning- the hustle and bustle of both of us out the door by 6:30 am w/ ss going to daycare- initially I was going to take SS to daycare- so DH could get to work early- we are all putting on shoes and SS throws a fit about wanting daddy to take him to daycare- DH is not a morning person and will do anything to avoid confrontation- DH says, ok Son, if you promise to have a good day at daycare- I'll take and pick you up from daycare- ss says okay- DH tells me to have a good day bc ss is going to have a good one ss agrees- give them both lovings and I come to work as they go to daycare. I get a call 10 mins to 7- We both start work at 7- that ss won't go into daycare- is screaming crying throwing a fit throwing things hitting and kicking bio dad won't get out of the truck etc.. Bio dad asks me to talk to him- all he's doing is grunting and making noises on the phone- tell him to go into daycare to have a good day and I'll see about going on a bike ride with a good day tonight (something that normally works for him) and he says no I dont want to. Bio dad says can you come to daycare-? I say sure- leave work and go to daycare- I pull in parking lot to find dad re-buckling child into seat and saying you're going to your mother's I'm already late for work- and bio mom's house is 1/2 hour away) Tell child bye and tear off back to work as I myself am late now.

Get a call from DH that ss is with Bio Mom but threw a fit going back to her as well- didn't want to go with her- etc. same that was at daycare- then DH jumps down my throat saying that I have no right to be pissed in this situation bc I'm not the one that had to take off work to handle ss and that it's no one's fault that ss has this kind of behavior- that I need to stop hating bio mom- even though I'm convinced that her repeated lying to child and others in front of child and telling child to lie and her non-discipline of child has created this monster that we saw today- UGH!

So now wtf do we do? DH lost 1 1/2 hours of work from running ss back to bio mom and if he already did not have a good week with her last week- it's just going to make the situation worse- neither bio mom or DH want the behavioralist anymore- and i know that there is something mentally wrong with child (but bio mom doesn't want to do any testings or get him any help).

I'm so sick of putting my all into this child and DH and ending up feeling like total shit bc no matter what I do- child and DH are always right- I love them both to the moon and back a zillion times- but days like this really make me wonder- WTF did I do and get myself into almost 4 years ago?

now DH calls me and asks me to go pick up ss after work bc BM is having issues with him and doesn't want him to spend the night with her. ugggg