Sick of it all
I am a Smom of a 3 yr. old SS- The custody agreement is that my fiance gets him at 5p on Saturdays, and Mom gets gim 5p on Wed. So we have 57% custody with 4 days. Bio-mom called CYS to file false reports earlier this week, and when I went to go pick up SS yesterday, she started her games. I went to pick SS up to put him in the car and she's right on my ass saying "Let me tell you why I called." No problem- we knew it was her and the investigations came back negative with nothing found, case closed. She then goes to grab my car door where I just put SS in his seat. I walked opposite around my car, locking the doors, and got in. The harassments kept up, and I did feel threatened as she kept getting closer and closer- then her bf came out- (side note- they live in the basement of her bf's parent's house)- So I tear out of the driveway leaving gravel marks. Now she is supposedly calling CYS, cops, and wants a PFA against me, and wants to place child endangerment charges against me as well as destruction of property (gravel driveway- a rake does wonders- and I will even go and do it- but I won't be allowed on property to pick SS up (the only reason I'm doing pick ups is because dad works at agreed pick up time, and her bf does the same on Wednesdays bc she works, and doesn't drive). So I'm in a real pickle now. Just sick of being treated like shit! Tired of being harassed and put in the middle. The lawyer advised if I was ever in a hostile environment to just get the hell out of there, and that's what I did. But I guess I was excessive I know I was wrong for tearing out. What else am I to do? I have kept my cool through all of the investigations, court cases, domestic relations for child support- I am seriously at my wits ends now and am so ready to just give up. I love both of my boys very much- but I'm sick of all the headaches. Where or what do I do now? PS haven't heard anything from any agencies as of this am. Really think that if it was that big of a concern, that it would have been handled sooner, or that she didn't call and is just blowing smoke out of her ass again like normal.
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Stay away from BM. Dad needs
Stay away from BM. Dad needs to be the one to pick up his son.
If that means leaving work early or hiring someone to do pickup so be it. If you weren't in the picture, he'd find a way to make it work.
The courts put it in that I
The courts put it in that I and BM's bf do the pickups bc the BM and FH can't get along either and we are able to have flexible schedules. Dad has a fixed schedule of 4p-12a. And BM works whenever and doesn't drive. So her bf has to drive her. I don't have a problem with her bf and wish that he would be the one to bring SS to the door- but she always has to rear her ugly head instead of letting her bf and I who are civil to each other do it. So now I guess we are meeting at the pd stations to do pu/do. its whatever- I just want to get to court, and be done- Would be so nice to get to the 5 days a week, and her every other weekend- bc she has said she will move out of state if that happens. Good riddance! Can't wait for the day!
Well, perhaps there's some
Well, perhaps there's some way to include in the agreement that if you and BM's bf are doing the pick-ups and drop-offs that you two should be the only ones involved in a pick-up or drop-off. That when you pick-up SS, bf brings him to the door, and when he picks up SS, you bring him to the door.
Doing it at the police station might be better for now, I wouldn't trust a BM like that anywhere, but at least at a police station, the cops are right there if necessary.
Exactly the reason for it.
Exactly the reason for it. She can't let a good thing go on at all. We have not had any issues for the longest time when its been her bf and I- nobody else. But whatever- its getting close to summer time, and she always wants more time during the summer, that's fine. And we are getting closer to our wedding, so that certainly is causing waves. OH WELL! We are asking for SS for the rehersal friday evening and the wedding saturday evening later into the reception- she will get him saturday evening, and she will have him the next week all week- even told her we would do saturday to monday and give her another 2 days instead of the quick change wed thurs and pickup friday! But we are taking her time during the rehersal and wedding, but the fact she has him the whole next week will be 2 extra days for us and 5 for her, - she doesn't think about the fact that if and when she would ever get married, we could but won't do the same. She has asked for extra time when their family is doing something- awesome get him around family by all means, but when we asked for 1 extra hour one evening we were fishing, and wanted to get dinner quick while we were there it was like pulling teeth with no meds.