I'm a little confused
Last night I was talking to DH and asked if he was sure he wanted to have a baby. We just started trying and I was curious. He asked if I was sure and I of course said yes. He then said "I hope it's a little girl just like you." Let me back up. In the past before we decided for sure to try, he would say it did not matter what it was just as long as I was happy. So I told him I did not think it mattered to him since he already has a boy and a girl. He got a little mad with me and asked why I always have to say stuff like that. He said he does not have a boy or a girl WITH ME and he hopes we have a little girl together. But it was almost like, to me anyway, he did not want to associate our child with the 2 he already has. Now I know he hates BM and tries his best to forget he ever had a life with her, so maybe that is what he meant. When we got off the phone (he works nights) I laid in bed, with my boxer Jake (he would die if he knew!!) and was really kind of confused about what he said. I am sure I am overthinking it, but it was just weird.
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I would think that he might
I would think that he might have some of the same feelings that my DH has. My dh often says that he wants to have a child w/me and that he cant wait, because there was so much that he missed out with his 2 kids because she left when the kids were a little over 1. He also has said that he knows that they are growing further apart (I think this is the BM's doing) and that he would love to have a child w/me that we could raise the way we wanted to raise them and have them and their love w/us daily.
So.. if you are and EOW couple like us... he might feel that he will have a complete family once you two have children.
Overthinking
Yes you are...overthinking.
By saying a little girl like you he means he wants to recreate the one he loves.
I've learned that with men -- it really is that simple. They are not like us -- they don't like beating around the bush, implications, etc.
He loves you and you're blessed.
Why would you dig for more?
Thought so
It is hard for me to remember he is just a man. I am all over the place all the time constantly thinking and he isn't. Thanks
Yes men are simple creatures
They don't think as deeply as we do as in over analyzing every motive (and we do, don't we?) I think sometimes that is what frustrates men and women with each other. On the other hand it can make us compliment each other and make a hell of a team together.
I think it was sweet that he said he wanted a daughter just like her mommy. DH is tickled pink
that he provided me with a little girl. I never thought when I left my marriage that I would have a daughter of my own. I know he would have loved a boy to raise as he only has a daughter, but my he really is fond of my younger son in particular, and gets to have a son vicariously through him.
He also gets to parent my 13 year old, but that child is so stubborn it's a lot harder to be a SF to him I'm sure.
Good luck and just relax. Your H seems to have his heart in the right place wanting to have a family with you.
Peace, love, and red wine
Now see, what you said makes sense
We have his 2 EOW. He also said last night that he missed a lot of their childhood because he always had to work such long hours to make ends meat. I know he will enjoy having a child that is his there everyday to love and teach and not just be a person his kids see 4 days a month. And yes, his kids are growing further away from him (BM's little plan all along). So I totally agree with you. Thanks!!
I think you are overthinking too
Maybe he was just trying to be sweet and is looking forward to the two of you sharing a child together.
He sounds like a good guy to me.
no harm
what they said-!
"Fortune favors the brave" - Virgil
Hey, be happy he wants a
Hey, be happy he wants a little girl just like you! It could be much, much worse...While I was pregnant, all I heard from DHs family (mother, sister, brother...) was that they hoped I had a little boy or girl that looked "JUST LIKE DH's daughter with the nasty BM"
Needless to say, they have not much paid attention to him because although he does look alot like DH, his skin/hair color are just like mine... (DH has darker skin, dark hair...I'm blond/pale...)
So, be happy your DH or anyone wants a kiddo just like you!
Congrats by the way!