Eventually comes to light.
Yesterday I "came across" some e-mails that were sent to various teachers at the school SS and my kindergartner attend. One to the reading teacher my BD will have next yer (this is a 2nd gd rdg teacher, she will be in 1st bt is very adv) a 3rd grade teacher (in whose classroom I was the room parent for SS since he begged me to be and his BM had NEVER EVER been involved in his classroom stuff like parties Ftrips whatever), about 15 to the 4th grade teacher SS had, and even more to this years teacher. I am going to cut and paste a 3 choice emails.
After you read the e-mails read what I wrote and tell me about how long you would stick around. My daughter has to attend this school, personal information of mine that otherwise would not be known by these people is now known. I believe that constitutes Invasion of Privacy. BMs need to repeat these things over and over to the school and the teachers is just ..................well I have no words. If you knew me in real life, you would know that rarely happens to me

**This is an e-mail sent to the 3rd grade teacher in '06. We did not get court results back until Mar 16 of that year stating she was primary physical but they still had jc.

E-mail:
Sent: Tue, 28 Feb 2006 10:54 pm
Subject: Re: ****- bathroom
I don't get **** back till Friday after school. When I had him last Wed & Thurs night he had a stomach bug that was giving him cramps and diarrhea. I let **** know to make sure he gave him foods that might help him get over it. I can't believe that it would still be bothering him, unless he isn't eating plain foods. I'll give **** a call tomorrow and see about getting him into the doctor. He still might be scared that if he passes gas that something might come out.lol Poor guy Thanks for letting me know.

I have noticed a change in **** since August when **** went to first shift having more time with him then me. I've had him fulltime for 4 yrs, so I think this has been adding stress to Jake. And with the way some people have been acting..it has pushed me away from **** school activities and involvement because I don't want **** to see the drama. Kills me that some people think they have more rights over me as being ****'s mom, when they haven't been around to see the whole side. I'm sure you are hearing tons...sorry. I have been keeping my mouth shut and waiting on the Judge's decision. I don't ever talk to ********...I keep all conversations between me and ****. She loves leaving me voice mails on my cell phone, and one saying that you and her are good friends...so that makes it pretty awkward for me. So I just hope that you can understand what's going on and hopefully it all works out best for Jake.
After the Judge's decision I would love to sit down and have a catch-up conversation with you
Thanks again for letting me know. Kills me that I have to sit back right now and let this drama happen, but I don't want to add to the fire, if you know what I mean.
Thanks,
########## (I chgd her name)

Let me say one thing-I have an 80+page phone log that begins in Aug 2005, that phone call from me never took place. She was never keepig her mouth shut, Jake was living with us bc according to their divorce agreement when my hubby was on a ful time day shift at the Sheriff Dept Jake was to live with him-**** HAD STRAIGHT A & B REPORT CARDS DURING THIS PERIOD AND NOW HE HAS 5 F'S. HE HAS 19 MARKS ON HIS ATTENDANCE FOR THIS YEAR. CPS HAD TO BE CALLED FOR HER TO EVEN TAKE HIM TO APPTS TO GET THE HOLE IN THE END OF HIS LITTLE PENIS ENLARGED SO HE WOULDNT PEE HIS PANTS ALL THE TIME-READ ON............

Here's 4th grade-
Sent: Tue, 30 Jan 2007 2:42 pm
Subject: Re: ****
I can tell that's ******** talking.lol
I talked with ****'s doctor today and he's putting him on the dose he should be on right now. This should make a huge difference in the next month. **** is scared of his dad and always comes here depressed and in bad moods. Always takes me a day to get him back to "happy ****". I thought **** was doing fine in school, so when I took Jake to doctor beginning of December, doctor recommended him going up on dose, I said "no". I was thinking it was because of the new baby. So I gave it time, now it's **** moving out of state. But I know now that it's the medicine.
**** tells me that he lies to **** and ******** because they are mean to him and he is scared to get in trouble by them. I really can understand where **** is coming from. I was married to ****, he is very negative and has bad temper problems. And ******** is just a huge drama queen that has been in and out of jail so many times.
I'm sorry if they bug you with emails all the time.
I assume everything is good since I never hear from you.
I'm the custodial parent so I should be hearing everything first to begin with.
I can't stop C**** from talking with you or being involved in Jake's school stuff. ******** has been told by judge, but with email you can't tell who it is.lol
All I hear from **** is negative comments about Jake and it tears me up that a dad can be that way.
***** has only been in **** life the last couple years, and that's because Jennifer does everything.
I think they are suppose to be in Arizona by end of March. I know that will help **** so much being in one home where he is comfortable. I hate to sound like drama and talk about them, but feel I have no choice.
It will take a couple weeks for his medicine to start showing difference.
Please keep me posted!
It would probably be best if we(Me and you) have a meeting with Jake after **** leaves.
We could have one now too, but I think it will be okay in couple weeks.
Just let me know.

**Thats one of many-found out the 4th grade teacher actually forwarded BM messages that my DH wrote her in regards to Jake being held back. It wasn't the teacher's place to send BM that email, it was bt the parents. This teacher chose to put herself in the middle and I have an email from her stating that she was not going to be put in the middle and would appreciate if my DH would not send mail trying to put her there. (this was at the end of the shool year once she was sick of all the buillshit). Hubby and I were planning a move to Arizona and we were going to build on his parents property-60 acres-but then decided we had better stay since SS was declining so much in his school performance. That email made me sick, but wait until you read the 4th grade one.

Here's the one to the office staff written at the end of last year:
Sent: Thu, 3 May 2007 6:36 pm
Subject: Re: End of year address correction
Just want to make sure it is mailed to my house.(should be the address you have)

Imagine a name and address here!!!!!!

I'm sure his father's girlfriend will try to have it mailed to them.
I have been having issues when her changing address through ****'s doctor and dentist offices.
I'm the custodial parent so everything goes to me and I make copies.

Thanks ######!

1st off-I was not his girlfriend. I was his wife.
2nd-We knew the school was sending us a copy of everything bc DH had called them. PARANOIA WILL ANNOY YA!
But why the defamation of character toward me? I have only ever taken him to ONE orthodontist appt and I regret that to this day and will NEVER do it again.

E-mail just a few weeks ago (while they are in mediation) trying to get ****** to go along with her little program of tracking SS behavior after having been at our house-Did anyone ever stop to think that maybe he has an attitude on those days because he can't stand going back to her house????
Nope that would make too much damn sense.

Here's the e-mail: It was dated March 20, 2008
Frye,

I was wondering if you notice a change in **** on Thursdays?
He stays overnight with his father every Wednesday.? When I get him
back on Thursdays, he is very grumpy, negative, and won't listen.? It's
always like that after he spends?time at his father's house.? He is very
happy and well mannered when he is with me.?
His father has only been having guideline visitation for 2 years.?
Before that he was never around.? I know **** to be very mean, rude,
and negative.? And I don't want **** around that.
When we went to court, they asked you and Tudor about his daily
behavior.? But that killed me, because he has been moving around so much
last year and this year, so his behavior wouldn't be able to be
tracked.? His father was ordered to do the after school transportation
to help me out, but that just caused more problems.
When we went to court, I was awarded back all school transportation
except when he goes to his father's on Wednesdays nights and every other
Friday.

Can you start keeping track of his behavior on Thursday's? And the
Monday's of the weekends his is with his father?
I would appreciate it.? That way if you notice a difference, that can
be brought to the attention of the courts.? They listen to teachers
over, mom says this, and dad says that.

Not to mention?Jake's new step mom has been in and out of jail the last
6 years for tons of felonies and drama.
It was so much nicer when I was doing it on my own.

This is Jake's weekend with his father.? So you might notice change on
Monday.? Please keep track if you do.

I will give you heads up on his father's weekends.

I know this takes up your time, but it's for the best interests of
Jake.

Thanks so much!

Heres the lovely one she wrote him at the beginning of the school year.

Sent: Tue, 21 Aug 2007 3:57 pm
Subject: Jake *******
Hello!

This is Jake's mom, (blocking her name)

I just want to give you a heads up on couple things.
Jake's step-mom(Jennifer) likes to get up in business that is none of her business. She was told by the Judge last year about her place involving Jake's school stuff. Example: her trying to sign up as classroom mom, etc... She seems to not understand her place still. We are going to court beginning of next month and this will be brought up again. And hopefully I will be doing ALL school transportation so issues will no longer happen.

They do the after school transportation, where Jake goes to their house after school, and they have to drive him to my house before 5:00. Well, last year I didn't see very many papers because they were "disappearing" and not making it to my house.

I'm the custodial parent, and they seem to not understand that we have guidelines to follow.

Jake's father use to be a Jail Deputy and he met Jennifer when she was an inmate, and there has been drama ever since. Jake's father wasn't even hardly in his life and now Jennifer is trying to be a mom over me. It is drama that I hate to be incorporated into school stuff.

Please let me know if anything comes up that you feel is not their "place".
I know a lot of important papers come home at the beginning of school, so I hope they all make it to my house.

Jake has a hard time concentrating in class and completing things. So, I'm hoping to do all the transportation and have him in one house on school nights. I think that will make a huge difference.
He currently stays overnight with his dad every Wednesday night and every other Sunday night. The judge wanted his dad to help more with him living close to the school, but she said she will never do that again because of the issues it has caused. I live in Martinsville.

Sorry to ramble on
Jake already looks up to you a lot, and that's great!

Have a good day!

Just a funny little FYI- the Judge never said anything about "i'll never let Father help again with SS because it has caused so much trouble" in fact there had not even been a court date since the 2006 one. Not sure why she needed to lie about it.

Now-Here is the burning question-
Do these teachers really need to know how I met my Husband
or do they need to know I spent some time in jail when I was 21 due to some stupid things that I decided to do? Do they really need her emailing these things? Why would someone want to say these things?
My husband has always been involved in his sons life. Just so happens the son looks just like another local guy that lives in our town, just so happens the mom was only 18 when she got pregnant, just so happens she tries to be nice as honey and fool people into thinking she is decent. I was actually beginning to think she was.
Why would you ask a teacher to track a child's behavior and actually tell them that you want to use that info in court?

I am sick of it. I am really hoping the apartment place calls soon, I dont care if I am 28 and have nothing to show but two lovely girls that know I love them. I have some resources people gave me last time and I will use them when the time comes. Can you all believe this woman even asks me if I want her to pick up my child from school? She always wants to know if she can, I always say no. I told DH that he better just walk away while he still has his balls. I don't think this is a fair fight and I dont think it's a fight worth fighting,

Feel like calling an attorney and filing for Invasion of Privacy.
That is on my list of things to do today.

Know this was long. If you made it through, please please write me let me know there is someone out there who thinks this is as physically sickening as I do. :barf:

Thanks