DH asked BM 3 times to meet with him B4 mediation so that they could talk about arrangements for their son. He has come up with 2 different parenting plans. Both different, but good ideas. Their child is 11 years old, and they have never had a sit down conversation about him. He is asking her to do this and she asks him to send the ideas over e-mail bc she is just "too busy" to sit down tomorrow afternoon and talk. Now, mind you it was made very apparent to her that I would not be there, an that I would even watch SS while they met somewhere local. She will not commit.
That bitch. Here we sit. Paying out the rear for our attorney and now this mediator. Obviously she didn't want to go to court bc she was advised against it by her attorney. Why not just grin and bear it and talk to the man she used to call her own??!! I don't get it.
I don't care to get it. She is retarded. She just now started paying on SS braces, hasn't paid any other medical bills (luckily my big mouth got those switched into her name though), and little does the wench know I ALREADY sent the mediator a full packet-
I included the following-
-Copy of SS transcript showing that in 3rd grade while SS lived with us FT he was ALL A & B. Now he has 5 F's. Great progress.
-1 page of concerns-Mother's promiscuous (sp) behavior and it's affect on a soon to be teenager who will mock the things he sees her do. (As if we can all afford to raise a grandkid before we're 35 hehe)
-Current grades. Very bad.
-All medical bills due.
-Copies of all receipts/copies of our checks that cleared paying these bills to keep them out of collections until I could switch them into her name.
-List of all her boyfriends since the order in 2006 (there were 8 of them). The length of each relationship and the changes in behavior we saw in SS with each change in BF.
-Both Parenting Plans and the benefits we believe Jake will receive from both of them.
My H signed a letter letting the mediator know that he was giving him this paperwork ahead of time so that when they sit down the mediator already knows that he WILL not be giving up any visitation, and that if that is what is sought after by BM he would take her to court.
He said all these things in a very "couth" manner, just giving him a heads up and a look into what he wanted to accomplish. Now he can also take the e-mails from this week asking her to meet him and her refusing.
That dumb BBBBBBB even sent an email that said this:
Subject-F.Trip-Sack Lunch-
Don't forget to pack a sack lunch for Jake for his Exotic animal rescue center FT!

Seriously. Okay honey first of all, you never told anyone about those FT you kept all the paperwork, signed it all, paid for all of it, volunteered for the one you wanted to go on, and then you tell us about them only after we pointedly ask for the info. BM stated that DH is supposed to keep himself informed. See that is an issue. Teachers feel like parents should talk to one another and let each other know these things. They tend to get a bit pissed off when put in the middle explaining things three and four times bc one parent wont tell the other something just bc they dont want to.
Oh-a guy I know from the salon where I work came in and said he had seen BM and I talking one day after school and I said yea I was trying to be cool and take things to a little different level. He said she never said anything but good about me but always tells him she wishes my H was a "better" Father to SS.
Now. How can you be "Better" when you see ...................UHHHGGGRRRFFFHHHHHH!!! I don't even have the words for that crap. I have a child with him with no complaints and if the bitch wanted a perfect father/son/mother relationship she should have kept her body in her own bed and not in about 5 others while her husband was on various fishing trips-he would come home and she would be gone with other men with the SS in their houses!! Staying there! Then playing stupid-Get a grip.
I will update after Monday. It will be a one session deal and one hour only bc we can't afford it and bc there is a reason she was advised not to go to court-so obviously that isn't what she wants to do. I bet she changes her attitude when she finds herself face to face with the person she used to lay down with!

Oh just got some other neww-my 6 year olds Dad just got offered 12 years in prison. That would mean do 6. I am not a bitter BM.
I wish his life was different even if it were just for his sake and I didnt exist, or our daughter. If anyone reads this I know you don't know him but pray for him. He was broken before but now I have a feeling this is the shattering point. Yes he did it himself. He will need more than himself to get himself out, too.
Thanks for reading if you made it through